Lonelyoneszone - Ash's Zone

Is it a headmate? Is it a fragment? Is it a facet? Is it a persona? Am I subconsciously masking? Am I subconsciously/involuntarily otherlinking/copinglinking? Is it a kinshift? Is it a ’flicker? Is it age regression? Is it a mood? Is it impulsivity? Is it an intrusive thought that I’m reacting to? Is it genderfluidity? Is it pronoun/namefluidity?

Who knows! Who cares! I don’t need to stress about this, it doesn’t matter! It’s a mode that the “I” is in, the way I feel in that moment! And I will make a pluralkit/tupperbox for it so I can express myself and decide the rest later! Or never! These labels are a construct! Personhood itself is a construct! I don’t need to box myselves! I can just live!

[Lab Results Came Back Fine] [Me, To My Body] ACT LIKE IT THEN!

Disabled people shouldn't have to be perfectly nice or kind when we ask for accommodations and inclusion. We shouldn't HAVE to ask.

Furthermore, we usually ARE being nice when we ask; ableds just take any request that they do the bare minimum for us as if it's a great slight to their honor.

this is going to be a generalized take, so please forgive me, but women are an underrated enforcer of femininity.

I’ve noticed this with hairdressers. multiple times I’ve gone to lady hairdressers and said “cut it all off,” and they’ve gone “hmm alright,” and basically just trimmed the split ends. meanwhile I can go to a dude and say “hey, can you make my hair slightly shorter?” and he’ll go “on it boss,” and shave me bald.

twice now, I’ve also had lady tattoo artists add pink to femme up a tattoo, despite that not being on the initial design.

god, also thinking about this brought back a memory. my mom once threw a fit because my shoes were “too masculine” (they were black women’s flats), saying that I’d upset my dad and ruin the formal event we were going to. I wore the shoes, my dad didn’t give a shit.

I dunno. it just feels like the misogyny is coming from inside the house sometimes.

hate when i say “i can’t do [thing] because of my autism” and hear (usually lower support needs) autistics say “well i’m forced to do [thing] so i have to” in response.

there will be autistics who never can do [thing] no matter how forced, no matter how punished, no matter how anything.

i can’t force myself to do [thing] i can’t do. not ever.

many autistics like me.

especially hate hearing autistics say “well if i didn’t do [thing] i would get abused” as if we autistics also didn’t get abused, except we still couldn’t do [thing].

you are dismissing higher support needs autistic who are or have been abused.

* [thing] here can be literally anything, doing chores, eye contact, speaking, socialising, get good grades in school etc.

Y’know when your chronic illness decides to be chronic and an illness? Yeah that’s actually bullying and bullying is bad so I’d like to take my chronic illness to court for harassment.

Here are three things we see as common sense:

Our abuser has NPD and yet we do NOT believe in narc-abuse/ cluster-b abuse

We did not form due to RAMCOA/ SA and yet we do show our support to them in any way we can and want to educate people

We support all minoritys "even tho" we arent part of them and that includes: looking into their problems and how society/ the system treats them, listening to them, supporting them, defending them in allday situations "even tho they arent in the room"

We are talking about: woman, POCs, indiginous people, physically disabled people, higher support need autistics, woman and girls, every person with a mental illness, survivors of RAMCOA, survivor of the troubled teen industry, woman in other countrys, people who get hate for their religion, "illegal" immigrants and more.

Please do your research and notice the problem, if we forget or ignore then we are part of the problem, especially in those times.