This Is The Autism Website But You Must Be Aware Of The Unspoken Things And The Subtle Things And Everything

This is my baby 🥺

TELEMACHUS☺️

saw a post that headcannoned telemachus having heart-shaped bangs and thought it was cute so here😌🤲

Oh no. No, can people not say the kitchen scene was 'abusive' please? It's so distasteful and honestly disrespectful to survivors of actual DV to twist a moment of human frailty into fuel for your dislike of a character/ship.

That scene was raw and desperate and driven by grief. Eddie let his frustrations boil over, and Buck immediately made it about himself and twisted it into a personal attack ("You think I didn't do everything I could to save him?").

Neither of them was dealing with their grief in a healthy way and they ended up taking it out on each other. Unfortunately that's what often happens when your emotions are in a bad place. It's why people keep a professional smile on their face all day at work and then rant at their partner the minute they get home. It's why children are perfect angels at school and then throw tantrums when they're back with their parents. Because they know that person is a safe space and will always forgive them. And guess what? They did forgive each other. Easily and without judgement or grudges. Because they are a family.

People are messy, life is hard and love is imperfect.

I'm on your side, even when it's not what I want.

You deserve Joy.

( A Rumination by BAANDIT buddie edit in dedication to the times Buck stepped into it with Eddie. )

deconstructing ableist brainrot ✨💗 🫶

i have been seeing so much discourse online about "technically who gets to count as disabled" and how chronic illnesses are "not actually disabilities", as if anyone with a chronic condition is inherently less deserving of equal access. i am like 85% sure i have pots and i can't even go a flight up the stairs without feeling like death or stand for ten minutes. any "normal" activity makes me crash twice as hard.

if that isn't "disabling".... then what is?

and my point here isn't to argue about what "counts" as a disability. like can we all just agree on the fact that two people with even the same condition can have drastically different experiences? stop trying to make a spectrum into a binary.

it doesn't matter how "disabled" you are, EVERYBODY WITH VARYING DEGREES OF DISABILITY deserves EQUAL access to treatment and accommodations. we don't need to police each other, we need UNIVERSAL ACCESS.

something i noticed with "anti-xyz" spaces is that.... there is no room for "anti-xyz" spaces, because those spaces will not be focused on support, fun, or community. it's just a cult used to diminish other people's self worth and esteem.

an example is in DID/OSDD/Plurality/Multiplicity spaces. I popped into the tag on tumblr to see what others' experiences are, and am met with something labelled "anti endo" etc. . And I think, if you're making a community, the only option is to be "pro-endo" or "pro-xyz" because that's the only way you're gonna meet individuals who are focused on safety, friendship, and community. Because if you constantly focus on how "you fan only be plural if you have trauma"- it is NOT your business to guess what another's persons trauma is! You don't need to know if a person is traumatized or not to validate their existence! You don't need to know other people's traumas! That is not your business, nor is that knowledge a suitable foundation on which to build a relationship.

The only choice is to be pro-whatever discourse. Because people are first. if all you focus on is whether or not your traumas are enough or real, you're just going to doubt yourself and cause unnecessary stress.

Hey, here’s a concept. What if we stopped saying “but autistic people CAN do all those things” (erasing high support needs) and instead started saying “not being able to do those things doesn’t impact someone’s value as a person nor does it make it okay to commit eugenics”.

i keep seeing ppl be like “omg the government wants to make a registry of autistic ppl for literally no reason!!” and like. y’all. there IS a reason. the reason is that they want to “cure” autism. there is no cure for autism, we know this. the way to eliminate autism is to ensure no more babies are born with autism. and the way to achieve this is….say it with me…..eugenics. it is not “for literally no reason.” it is eugenics. eugenics is the reason.

I love talking to kids about disability bc

1. they often just Get It, and

2. they have 0 concept of disability as a tragedy or something pitiable.

I've watched kids get into an argument with a teacher bc they thought wheelchairs were cool. I told a kid that I can't stand for too long sometimes and they replied, "That's okay, I can't do cartwheels sometimes, but I just do other stuff then. You can sit down with me if you want". Today a girl asked me what the headphones on a classmate's desk were for and I told her that headphones are important for some kids because noises bother them, and she said she wished she had headphones at home, because her baby brothers make a lot of noise and it makes it hard to think. The idea that different people could use tools at different times is intuitive and simple and when accessibility aids are explained neutrally, kids don't see them as bad or unfortunate, they're just things that are useful.

Even mental disability!! In Kindergarten the other day one of the kids asked me why his table partner got stickers when nobody else did. I started off by saying, "Well, when you do your work well, it feels good, right? That's your brain giving you a reward," and the kid just right away went, "Oh, and the stickers are like his reward?" YES! You are 5 and have a better grasp on ADHD than most adults! Kids blow me away every day.