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Most Radfems and the like don’t respect DNIs- which I honestly think kind of sucks in its own way. You don’t owe me or anyone your time or attention and I’m not owed access to your blog. A DNI is a polite request to respect a boundary and you- the person reading this- your right to your own space and your own boundaries matters. Never let anyone make you believe the lines that you place don’t matter.

Sometimes I respond to posts on my for you out of habit though and don’t check blogs beforehand. If I break your DNI, I’m sorry especially if I do so in a way that triggers you. Please curate your online experiences as needed.

”Feminists think the goals of Tra’s and MtFs are unconnected-“ and you spent an entire book giving me really good reasons to continue to think that. This book says that the reason males are misogynistic is their fear of being perceived as feminine, therefore feminism should focus on helping males out of that brain hole. And the thing is… Feminism has tried that. Libfem bullshit has BEEN babying men and blaming women for males cruelty for supposedly being the people who won’t let them hold purses or whatever the fuck.

Has it worked? I wouldn’t say so. I look around and still see women suffering. I think the reason males are misogynistic is because they benefit from a hierarchical system that treats women as property. I think this happens regardless of any secondary factors. I’ve seen too many feminine males defend pornography to think defense of pornography comes from some place of self loathing instead of their desire to get off no matter what. The goal of radical feminists is female liberation from a system that sees them as the property of males. The goal of ‘trans feminism’ is the liberation of femininity from the shackles of masculinity. I can say that’s a fine goal, but they are so fundamentally different that they require different movements.

Tbh one of my peaking moments was when female people not being comfortable around males post assault was brought up as a case for female only shelters existing in tandem with gender neutral ones. And the universal response was, ‘traumatized female people aren’t allowed their trauma. They should get over it.’ Unlike Transwomen who never should be expected to sacrifice anything for even a second, abuse victims are fine to throw under the bus.

It’s kind of tragic how feminism that seeks to placate males is like ‘maybe if I was nicer to him he wouldn’t hit me, it’s kind of my fault really.’ But about an entire portion of the population.

I want a wife by Judy Brady really is a summary of why the patriarchy continues to exist. If your capable of never thinking of what the other person might want, if you’re able to dehumanize them enough to never consider that they exist in their own right… Who wouldn’t want a sex mommy who does everything for you and is always pleasant. That’s fundamentally why I don’t think males can escape the patriarchy merely by embracing their own femininity. If the choice is between ‘sometimes people make fun of you if you act a certain way… But you get the (often unhappy but never unpleasant) sex mommy I mentioned earlier’ or ‘You can cry or wear a purse, be as feminine as you want but female people have rights and most of them won’t want to be your sex mommy and will might even require you to help them while they work.’ The only reason to pick the latter is if you actually see female people as human and her wants and needs as equal value to your own (or if you’re not attracted to females, that can build a bridge of empathy but well. Sometimes it’s just a continued expectation of labor except without the sex. Sometimes they still believe in male supremacy but see us as lacking value altogether.) So much of regressive politics around female people are built around this deal it’s kind of ridiculous when people act like it doesn’t exist.

This is something i’ve been kinda stressing about lately as a lesbian woman. dunno if you could give your opinion?

i’m quite short. 5’3. Not ultra short, but shorter than average where I’m from (not american).

I’ve noticed I tend to find women of similar height and even slightly shorter attractive. It’s not that I haven’t ever found tall women attractive, I do, but I do seem to be more drawn toward the shorter ones.

Is this creepy? I don’t like it when the woman’s looks are juvenile looking. But I just seem to like the idea of my partner being either my size or maybe a bit smaller than me. Not like 4’10 or anything, but just a tad smaller. But now i’m worrying, because while I don’t think it’s the same as those 6’5 men who wanna date 5’0 women, maybe other women will see me as the same, especially radfems?:c

Again, it’s not like my future partner or my attraction in general has a height limit, I just, like some tend to prefer curly or straight hair, or like some lesbians hype up taller women, seem to like short women. In general though, big size differences have never appealed to me, neither in media or irl, so maybe it has something to do with it? Since i’m not overly tall myself, perhaps my preference just falls into line.

Sorry i’m rambling. Please be honest!

I'll be 100% honest anon, you are not saying anything that I would even remotely consider creepy or objectifying.

No one is obligated to a specific preference - men or womyn. I personally prefer a womyn who is my height or maybe just two inches taller. I also prefer fuller womyn, whether that is fat or muscle. This would only be an issue if right after you said that was your preference, you started rambling about how taller womyn are actually pieces of shit and that if a womyn has wavy hair then she's ugly lmao. That's only ever been the problem with men saying they don't like to date big womyn. They follow it up shitting on said big womyn instead of leaving it at, "I just prefer thin womyn."

You are not obligated to be attracted to anyone. You're just another gal with preferences.

Hey so

Why isn’t the left trying to appeal to the ‘Work is shit’ girls and young women?

Girls and women are expressing a dissatisfaction with labor as it exists currently in the western world especially, a system where the rich have obscene amounts of money to spend on bullshit while people starve. A system where they work for hours and hours get no free time and at the end of the month barely have enough to scrape together for rent, and if they get into medical debt? They’re fucked and they know it.

The Right says ‘that’s because you’re a woman, and woman are built for the home’ and the Left is going… ‘you dumbasses don’t you know that when you aim for that Tradwife bullshit you’re setting yourself up to be abused? You’re setting the feminist movement back. I hope you get abused.’ While males are allowed to make the same complaints about work and it’s NOT considered a natural result of male biology OR a justification to take away the rights of males.

… What do people even expect the answer to be when someone rejects them and they ask, ‘why?’ Because the ‘why’s’ going to hurt their feelings no matter what, it doesn’t feel good to not get what you want and all. It always happens too, people rarely go, ‘Will you go out with me?’ ‘Oh, no thank you’ ‘understandable have a nice day’ it’s usually ‘well why won’t you date me?’ What do they want from that? To be told they’re not attractive to the person? That they don’t share a lot of interests? There’s no answer that gets people into that, ‘understandable, have a nice day’ position… Part of me thinks it’s just to justify their anger over the situation. ‘I’m not mad that I was told no- I’m totally fine with being told no- but it’s kind of fucked up to not want to be in a relationship for <Any given reason> isn’t love supposed to be beyond that sort of thing?’