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Don’t piss off your medics

Video Game Etiquette

Respect your medics. Don’t walk into a server with your dick swinging around like you’re hot shit. I will watch you die, and die, and die. And laugh every time while watching your dumb ass. And smile at you as I heal everyone around you but you. Because I hold your virtual life in my hands. And I decide who lives and dies. Don’t piss me off if you want to win. Sincerely, a Killing Floor 2 medic main.

Fantastic Mr.Fox | Director: Wes Anderson | Studio: American Empirical | United States, 2009

Emotional Abuse can turn every day interactions into problems.

I have had a recent experience while in training for my new job and I thought I might express some thoughts about it.

The woman who has been training me is sweet and I like her, but her methods of critique and helping me get things correct is a bit…harsh from my perspective. And she’s not trying to be at all. She is really trying to help.

However, emotional abuse taints the perception and actions of a victim even years after abuse. And the worst part is that each victim’s experience is varied. The stereotypes of abuse we see in our media is just that: a stereotype. Abuse comes in many forms and each individual will have different triggers. However, abusers do have some commonalities, usually by being controlling or will get violent over little, silly or normal things.

I figured it would help to re-frame the way she approached it and maybe some people out there will consider this in the future. We obviously can’t know someone’s history and often you can’t pick out an abuse victim from a crowd. But to help avoid triggering emotional distress and protective behaviors, I think people aught to at least be aware and maybe avoid the following approaches when teaching or instructing someone else. ____________________________________________________

Over correcting a former victim can come off as a bit over-bearing, especially when their abuser was extremely controlling. Mine (who happened to be my mother) was not a very nurturing type. So when she would try to teach me how to do something, if I did it wrong during the first try she would often just take over. And it wasn’t like, “Oh sweetie let me do it.” No, I was more shoved out of the way by an agitated/angry parent who complained that I was unable to complete the task.

Behaviors over correcting caused: -Hesitating to help someone with a task unless they give permission. -Emotional distress and agitation when being corrected on every task, shot etc.

Things to change: -Correct when things need to be early on in training, gently. Let the person training do the task so they learn it properly. -If possible, let a few oopsie’s slide and inform the person of their mistake and NEXT time try to correct it (as long as this is applicable.) Don’t correct too much in front of customers or clients unless it’s important to do so.

While my co-worker was well meaning, she would often ask me to stop and look at the picture I had just taken (I am a photographer) and to think about what was wrong with it.

“Now stop here, and look at that picture. Think about it. What’s wrong with it?” Is a pretty close phrasing to what she used. To someone who had a healthy upbringing or no exposure to abuse would never consider how that might affect someone who has.

Growing up in an emotionally abusive household where being wrong was met with agitation, yelling or screaming, this means that phrase creates a deer in the headlights reaction from me. I won’t think because the only thing I know in that moment is that I did something wrong. While I know now I won’t face violent tantrums in response, that reaction is still ingrained in my head. So instead of getting a productive response, it reinforces the negative one.

Behaviors caused by not allowing the victim to be wrong sometimes: -Victim will freeze up when confronted about doing something wrong and shut down. -May bring back a defensive persona and/or victim will shut down or experience severe emotional distress.

Things to change: -When a person in training gets something wrong, inform them in a gentle manner. “Ope, looks like you have a stray collar there. Let’s do that one more time.” Or “We can’t see her arm in the shot. Bring that back around.” Avoid asking them to point out the mistake if you can as this puts the spotlight on their them and reinforces the negative reaction and can cause an emotional shut down.

lord the peasants are so loud today

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A master post of Thomas Romain’s art tutorials.

There’s not enough space to post all of them, SO here’s links to everything he has posted (on twitter) so far : 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12. 

Now that new semesters have started, I thought people might need these. Enjoy your lessons!

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