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What To Do If A Tumblr User Appears to Be Considering Attempting Or Is Going To Attempt Suicide

The first thing you want to do is report the blog to Tumblr staff.

 You can alert the Tumblr staff by sending them a quick email explaining the situation. It is critical that in your email you include a link to the user’s blog, since this way they can easily identify the user in question and contact them. But you shouldn’t solely depend on the Tumblr staff unless you have to, since there is only so much the staff can do. 

Check to see if there is any way of contacting someone the user knows in real life.

 If there is anyone that this user interacts with in real life (a good friend, a relative they have a positive relationship with, a colleague they have from work, etc.) that knows them and you can get in touch with (whether through Tumblr messages, email, etc, it doesn’t matter) it is essential that you contact them. Tell them that you believe the user in question is likely to attempt or is attempting to commit suicide.

 If you aren’t sure how to find someone the user interacts with in real life, see *.

Continue to message the aforementioned person.

 Once you’ve managed contact with the person that the user interacts with in real life and warned them that the user in question is likely to attempt or is attempting to commit suicide, stay in contact with them. It is important to tell them that they should call a suicide prevention hotline number if the user is considering suicide (1-800-273-8255 is the national suicide prevention hotline number if they live in the U.S, if they don’t click here for a vital list of all suicide hotlines for different countries (if there is no suicide prevention hotline for the user’s country see **) and tell them instead that they should go straight to calling an emergency number if the user is in immediate danger (911 if they live in the United States, and click here for a list of the emergency numbers for other countries if they live outside the U.S). What a lot of people don’t realize about most suicide prevention hotlines is that it isn’t just for people who are considering suicide, it’s also for people who believe someone they know is considering attempting and/or is going to attempt to commit suicide. Once the person has made contact with the hotline, professionals will handle the situation from that point forward. DON’T CONTINUE TO MESSAGE THE PERSON ONCE THEY’VE MADE IT CLEAR THEY WILL CALL OR ARE CALLING THE NUMBER. Wait for them to get back to you. I understand how worrisome it can be to wait to receive information on whether or not someone you follow and care about is okay, but you have to let the person do what they can to save the suicidal user without interruption.

* How to find people that could help the user.

Make a post on your blog(s) about the user, explaining the situation in the post. It’s important to also explain that you’re looking for people who know this user in real life and you can get in contact with to figure out a way to help prevent them from committing suicide. Also include a link back to this current post you’re reading so that other people can be informed and help you take action. It is vital that you get your post to circulate so that more people will see it. The more people that see the post, the greater the chance there is that you will be able to locate someone who can do something in real life to save the user. You can help the post circulate by tagging popular blogs you know that would be willing to reblog your post and bring attention to their own followers. Eventually, you’ll hopefully find someone who knows the user in real life. If you don’t, double check to make sure that you informed Tumblr staff of the situation and send the user all the love that you can and pray that they turn out okay, they could really use it at the moment.

** What you should do if the only available numbers are for immediate danger, but the user in question is only considering committing suicide.

 In this situation it is important that you make sure you don’t lose contact with the person that knows the user. You need to help inform them so that they know how to correctly approach the user about suicide. Send them a link to this site (the site link is http://www.bethe1to.com/bethe1to-steps-evidence/ for a quick copy and paste) should this scenario occur. This site is extremely useful for informing a person on how to approach someone they believe is considering committing suicide. It would be helpful to consider giving the site a visit for yourself, as it could come in handy should you ever have to confront someone you think is suicidal.

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ADDITIONAL INFORMATION:

In case you aren’t sure what happens when you call a suicide hotline, visit: https://www.healthyplace.com/suicide/suicide-hotline-what-happens-when-you-call. This way you can better understand what happens when the person you’re contacting makes the call for the user, or should you need to make a call yourself.

Furthermore, a question you might ask is “Why do I need to contact someone the user knows in real life instead of confronting them online myself if they’re only suicidal and in no immediate danger”? Well, websites and social media platforms will only ever be text on a screen, at some point you have to realize that. So confronting the user over the internet through said text isn’t going to be nearly as effective or sure of a method as someone they know personally sitting down with them and discussing it with them in real life. It is encouraged to send the user some love and support online if they are suicidal, but it’s more important to make sure someone they know assists them in getting the help they need.

I’m honestly so grateful for the creditless Stammi Vicino duet from vol 6 and the official bonus manga because they confirm what I thought before but wasn’t certain of because of the credits which got in the way and because we only got to see like half of Yuuri’s exhibition.

And what I’m talking about here is that Victor and Yuuri switch roles throughout their ice dance.

And yes, I mean female and male roles.

We see that Yuuri starts off in the female role as he is the one being lifted

as well as supported by Victor in moves such as this one:

But as they enter the second half of their performance together, the balance suddenly shifts and

Victor becomes the female partner in their ice dance, now being supported by Yuuri.

And, accordingly, we soon see this:

I wish I knew a professional name for this move, but the point is that when Victor leans to the side, it is Yuuri that supports him through holding his arm and balancing him out. I’ve seen this performed in ice dancing footage I found on YouTube and indeed, Victor would be the woman here, while Yuuri would be the man.

Right before the sequence transitions to Yuuri running in St. Petersburg, we manage to see this:

You’ll notice that Yuuri is leading Victor and pulling him into that spin. Although they both spin, Victor is doing the feminine spin while Yuuri does the masculine spin. The best way that I can explain this is that the one being led holds the feminine role and the one doing the leading holds the masculine role, like in most dances.

All of this we’ve seen in the anime (although somewhat obscured by the credits) and it was enough for me to determine that they do indeed switch roles and it was a very conscious choice on the creators’ side. But one thing that I kept wondering about was: Why does Yuuri not lift Victor? Surely, if he can pole dance while holding Chris with only one arm, lifting Victor should not be an issue? I justified it to myself with the fact that Yuuri is shorter, so lifting Victor on the ice would be considerably more difficult for him than vice versa.

And then the official manga came and swept me right off my feet.

Because Yuuri was clearly lifting Victor.

And when I saw this, I thought: “Wait, why didn’t we see this in the anime?”

And then it hit me - this is the second half of the performance.

And suddenly everything falls into place.

Because Victor has less stamina than Yuuri, when Victor and Yuuri were choreographing the program, they placed the parts where Victor lifts Yuuri as early as possible. And because Victor wouldn’t be able to lift Yuuri in the second half, that’s when Yuuri’s chance to do a lift or two appears. Yuuri has more stamina, so lifting Victor by the end of the program when Victor would be more tired is not an issue for him, and makes perfect sense.

And I just love this so much because it may be such a small detail but it’s so consistent with what we know about the characters and I’m just??? Amazed? Because I don’t think I’ve ever seen such consistency and wholesomeness in anything in recent memory.

But even apart from that, this single panel proves that Victor and Yuuri truly are equal in their ice dance, and by extension in their relationship as a whole.

Which is awesome because it’s further confirmation that Victor and Yuuri and pretty much all of yoi itself is a huge middle finger to gender roles and heteronormative stereotypes (not to mention the real life ice dance/pair skate ISU rules), and I love it and will never stop praising it.

Bamf malec vs Soft malec

Daily Reminders for LGBT+ People

Gay men: you are not “disgusting”

Lesbians: you are not a fetish

Bis: you don’t have to “pick a side”

Pans: your sexuality/romantic orientation is real

Polys: your sexuality/romantic orientation is valid

Trans women: you are beautiful

Trans men: you are handsome

Intersex: you are attractive

Enbies: your gender(s) is/are attractive

Agender people: you are attractive and whole without a gender

Genderfluid people: your gender(s)/gender experience is valid

Aces: there’s more to being human than sex

Aros: there’s more to being human than romance

A-spec/Aro-spec: your sexuality/romantic orientation is real

Polyam people: your relationships are valid and beautiful

Queer: your identity is real

Questioning: it’s okay for you to be questioning; you are a welcome part of the LGBT+ community

Please add on if I forgot anyone!

songs to daydream and make edits of your otp to in your head (or the ones I use for those anyways lmao idk why I made this pls don't hate on my choice of song)

I actually have more buuuuut..

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enjoy the songs tho :3

… Was a friend

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These are just too good

I received this ask in my inbox and i had no idea how to respond to it. So i thought wouldn’t it be funny if i made a short clip of that scene where yurio fucking falcon kicks the shit out of Yuuri because….falling? And then it escalated…so enjoy this short video of the YOI skaters falling as the beat drops to Paint the Sky by Ave and EFX and Varun ft LA James.

#honestly merida y u even tryin