"You can't blame that woman for what she did, she was conditioned to behave that way by the patriarchy!" (Radfems whenever they arbitrarily decide to remove agency from certain women and not others.)
Why does that matter? Nearly everything we think is a result of conditioning.
Our conditioning determines whether we stuff ourselves past the point of hunger because there's still food on our plate, and we were taught it's wrong to ever waste it.
Or if we think it's okay for parents to belt their children as a form of punishment, or for a husband to apply "domestic discipline" to keep his wife in line.
Or if we believe elders deserve a heightened level of respect.
Or if we think homosexuality is a sin based on what religion we were brought up in.
We are initially handed all of our beliefs by someone else, and when we reach the age of reason we are responsible for choosing for ourselves whether they're correct or not. Hear me, hypocrites: ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ช๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ด๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ค๐ช๐ข๐ญ ๐ข๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฐ๐ณ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ด๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ค๐ช๐ง๐ช๐ค ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฐ๐จ๐ณ๐ข๐ฎ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ, ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฆ๐ณ๐ท๐ฆ๐ด ๐ฏ๐ฐ ๐ด๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ค๐ช๐ข๐ญ ๐ฑ๐ข๐ด๐ด!
Would you give your homophobic boomer neighbor a pass for their beliefs? Why not? They're only acting from their conditioning, and that makes them blameless for what they continue to believe, correct?
If a parent dragged their kids to church and terrorized them with the threat of hellfire and damnation if they didn't get right with God, you wouldn't blame them according to your principles, right? They're only repeating what their parents said, who repeated what their parents said, and so on. Why would you expect them to think for themselves and break the cycle when you don't expect the same from women?
Or is it that you're actually just a walking stereotype of the way women are supposedly allergic to reason, logic, and accountability, because the only people who you believe aren't responsible for overcoming their conditioning are women?
๐ Radfems embody this stereotype, and CLEARLY that doesn't embarrass them, but it does embarrass me and other women who try to apply our principles consistently. That's why I distanced myself. We are not the same.
stumbled across an interesting subreddit today
We live in a world STEEPED in sexual objectification; where we hear about so-called "sex positivity" constantly; a world where BDSM and other amazingly harmful and revolting kinks are celebrated and those who are against them are shamed; where it's considered normal to walk around naked at public events, and to simulate sex on stage in musical performances that are viewed all over the globe...
And ONE blogger says, "I think these things are harmful," and people ACTUALLY have the audacity to show up and talk about how they're "tired of the sex-negativity."
It's just...astonishing, really. These people act like a fish suddenly taken out of water if they're exposed to a sex-negative or even anti-promiscuity/anti-kink post. "Put me back in my pool of shallow sexual objectification! THIS IS VIOLENCE!" ๐น
I feel like a lot of liberals, especially the younger generation, don't really have any core beliefs other than "let everyone do as they please!" they're radical individualists. If something makes me happy, then it's good. If something makes them happy, then it's good because who am i to get in the way of someone else's happiness and freedom. No structural analysis. No attachment to anything other than individual personal fulfilment. Very spineless imo and antithetical to socialism and feminism.
the world wasn't built for you, that's why you see through it
Next time someone tells you women are meant to have children blah blah blah have them look up what a placenta is. We are so misinformed about the female body that despite most of us hearing that word before, we donโt really think about its role. The placenta is built by the embryo (not the mother) to essentially hide itself from the mother. Because otherwise she would KILL IT. Itโs a foreign body with half of another personโs genetic code. Also we all have heard about the hormone HCG but most of us hear of it in regards to pregnancy tests and not the fact that it forces the motherโs uterus to start secreting a protein to feed the embryo. With every pregnancy, the fetus and mother are in competition. The fetus wants to grow and the mother tries to protect herself and not DIE. we are capable of pregnancy, we have the organs necessary to birth new life. This does NOT mean our organs are for anyone but ourselves. Every part of you is there FOR YOU. Regardless of what anyone might say. Donโt be ashamed of not wanting children. Donโt feel like a broken woman for not being able to have children. Donโt let anyone tell you your sexuality is wrong because it doesnโt result in offsprings.
Nobody on radblr ever goes "hm. female socialization is so prevalent and suffocating that certain women will rebel against it and look down on women perpetuating it. We need to be considerate of them too. #all women are my sisters"
It only gets mentioned in the context of "be considerate and say nothing against str8 momma #16781265829^10 who is doing everything patriarchy wants her to even if it's throwing you under the bus"
hm. so interesting
Women who protect dangerous men are almost as dangerous as the men they protect. There are women who know their husbands/brothers/fathers have committed sex crimes against women, and stay silent in the presence of other women. They donโt warn other women of their male relativesโ predatory behavior, allowing their pervy male relatives to get close to women who donโt know any better.
As Solanas once wrote, men will:
"swim through a river of snot, wade nostril-deep through a mile of vomit, if he thinks there'll be a friendly pussy awaiting him."
Yes, and male-attracted women are no better. She will:
risk cervical cancer, STIs, and STDs,
mess up her hormones with pills, insert copper in her uterus,
go through excruciating torture like abortions, pregnancy, and childbirth,
put up with abuse and sexual harassment from her spouse, spend the best years of her life pampering a man child, shortening her own lifespan to lengthen his,
litter the world with walking time bombs, spawn criminals and rapists at worst and covert misogynists at best onto earth and creating a world where herself, her sisters, and her daughters live in fear,
pollute the world with so many needless males so as to render human life disposable to oligarchs, making all of us easily exploitable because they know the male-attracted female will just keep churning out more cannon fodder,
submit to males and endlessly toil away to maintain the status quo of male power structures, dragging other women down with her, so on and so forth......
kink isnt sexual and dude isnt gendered and aces can desire sex and cishet men are queer and lesbians can sleep with men and twinks can be fat and communists can own for-profit businesses and punks donโt have to listen to punk music and vegans can eat meat and white people are poc and humans can breathe underwater