Please

Sure, it would be the best present ever!

6 Steps in Learning to Love Yourself

1.See the good in your past. There will always be things that we wish had never happened; there will always be bad memories and things that we regret. But they are part of who you are – so accept that they have happened and celebrate the person they’ve allowed you to become.

2. Invest time in the things that bring you happiness. It’s important to identify the things that you enjoy, and that make you come alive, and are all a part of “you”. Spending time on those things will help to raise your self-esteem, as you’re valuing yourself when you pursue happiness.

3. Forgive yourself for your mistakes. We all make mistakes - and when we think of them we cringe. But that doesn’t make you any worse than other people. Just learn what you can, and then move on with your life.

4. Stop criticising yourself. So often we’re really our own worst enemy. We look for our flaws, and we put ourselves down – instead of being understanding of our own limitations. It’s time to change that behaviour – so start loving yourself.

5. Listen to your instincts and your intuitions. If you want to love yourself, you must listen to yourself. Pay attention to those instincts and your instant gut reaction – and trust that you are right when you hear that inner voice.

6. Appreciate your life. Of course there are things that you wish that you could change. But some things are good, and are worth appreciating. So, focus on, appreciate, and make lots of your strengths.

END BODY SHAMING

Too many people are being body shamed by total arseholes and there’s just no fucking need for it.

When you look at someone’s body and then send vile messages about their size just take five minutes and think to yourself “Hmmm they could gain/lose weight but I will always be a dickhead” Instead of being ‘That dickhead’ try to imagine why they are the size they are. Do they have a medical issue (mental or physical), are they too self conscious to exercise (not all large people are unfit and not all slim people are fit), are they being pressured by a partner to be the size they are. There could be many reasons they are the size they including they are just happy with there body and don’t want to change it and that is perfectly fine.

I have never liked my body even when I was a size 8-10 with a stomach so flat you wouldn’t believe it. I have had 2 children which resulted in stretch marks, quit smoking after nursing my Dad through terminal cancer, this resulted in a weight gain of 5 stones (first two photographs) which caused even more stretch marks, lost 4 with diet and exercise, gained 3 because I thought I had a handle on my weight, lost another 2 with exercise (I love naughty food too much). The third photograph was a couple of months ago and I still wasn’t comfortable in my own skin (trying to hid the apron 🙈). The last photograph wasn’t long after the third, no difference in size but there is in confidence. I now accept that my body tells a story which will never be finished until the day I die.

I never thought I would have the courage to share these photographs but you know what, if it helps to change the way of thinking of just one dickhead then my anxiety over this post is so worth it.

If anyone wants to share this post then just do it 😘🐺

Just the truth

I’m okay…You’re okay

Are you ashamed to crawl to him because your belly hangs and your tits sway? Do you prefer online LDRs because if she sees your small stature in real life she won’t respond to your authority? Do your ribs show so distinctly that you’re always dreading the first comment about eating something so you’ll be healthy?

Too fat. Too short. Too skinny. Too loud. Too smart. Too hairy. Too old. Not enough money. Not enough experience. In a wheel chair. Lost a limb. A basket case with enough luggage to open a store.

Stop. Just stop.

You are you. And whoever that is you are a unique addition to the world. There is no other exactly like you which makes you a rare prize. And in this world there are those who would give anything to possess that prize.

Be proud of you. Love you. Don’t obsess over those who don’t value your brand of awesomeness. But remember to be open and accepting of those who do. If Tumblr teaches you nothing else it should be clear that there is a ying to every yang.

Who knows? The person you reblog this from may be yours.

Clothing suggestions/what pleases you

Hi everyone if you have the time to read or reblog this i would be really happy.i know this is gonna be a tough one because everyone is different and has different tastes but i’d like to know what do you like to see on a girl.i have always thought of myself as a more classy bimbo i love retro clothing think audrey hepburn and stepford wives.but i’ve noticed my style has changed this year probably through tumblr and hypnosis (or them just giving me enough confidence to wear things i’ve wanted to wear for years but never did because of body image issues)i bought my first mini skirt ever this year probably not short enough amd definitely not tight enough but the first for some one who always wore skirts to her ankles amd after years of putting it off and crying because of lack of having big breasts i bought my first short sparkly dress(well shortish) yet again not short enough actually probably too long but shorter than i’ve ever been used to i wore it a few days ago to a party i also went braless with my nipples poking out which is something i’ve never done before.please tell me if you have any preferences of course i have to dress to suit my body type.i have a tiny bit of muscle,i’m small to practically flat chested and have round thighs and a round ass i always think they are big but other people say they are small. I would be glad of female opinions too because I know there are much sexier and sluttier girls than me out there who might have some tips or have doms/masters they can ask.just typing this is making me wet,I spend a lot of my time in sporty clothing but I like to get dressed up when I go out or on special occasions ❤️

Definitely

Reblog if you think the person you reblogged this from deserves to be happy.

I’ve seen a lot of posts on my dash tonight about users who are threatening suicide, with other Tumblr members posting in effort to try to get ahold of them. I think you all should see this:

IF THERE IS EVER A TUMBLR USER WHO HAS POSTED A GOOD-BYE MESSAGE, SUICIDE NOTE, VIDEO, OR ANYTHING OF THE SORT, PLEASE FOLLOW THIS POST.

1. Scroll to the top of your dashboard.

2. See the circular question mark icon at the top? It’s the third one over from your home symbol. Click on that, and a screen similar to the one in the picture will come up.

3. Where you can type in questions, the box with the magnifying glass at the top, type in the word “suicide.”

4. Click on the first link that shows up. It should say, “Pass the URL of the blog on to us.”

5. Type in the user’s URL and tell Tumblr admin that the user is contemplating suicide and has posted a message indicating that they are going through with it or will be attempting. Hit send! Tumblr administration will perform a number of actions to contact the user and take the necessary steps to prevent the suicide.

TUMBLR: THIS COULD SAVE A USER’S LIFE. PLEASE DO NOT IGNORE SUICIDE THREATS.

Reblog this to keep other users aware. Suicide isn’t a joke, and neither is someone’s life. If you didn’t know this, someone else may not, either. Pass it on.

Loaded Heart

He knew he wanted her

He loved her face, her smile, her laugh

He knew her favorite things, her dislikes, her dreams

He paid attention to all of her details

His hope for her was off the scales

To go out with him he would her emplore

He aimed at her his heart like loaded gun

But she wore armor that gleamed not in the sun

For by another man, she'd been hurt before

— JRP

4/7/20