I Love The Aromantic Or Aro-spec Ruan Mei Headcanon But I Fucking Hate Like 90% Of The People Who Headcanon

I love the aromantic or aro-spec Ruan Mei headcanon but I fucking hate like 90% of the people who headcanon her as aro/ace.

Her whole struggle to understand love and passing that on to the cat cakes she created would be so fascinating to explore through the lens of being aro. Because yeah, struggling to differentiate between different types of "love" is a very aro experience.

But so. Fucking. Often. The sentiment I see around the headcanon? "Ruan Mei is emotionless and therefore aroace," or even worse (and this is a direct quote lifted from a comment I saw, and I have seen similar ones multiple times), "I'd consider Ruan Mei's psychopathic ass to be aroace". Which is, in my opinion, very telling of the way you think about aroace people. Because why is your one aroace headcanon the character who is shown to have dubious-at-best ethics and little understanding of other people? Why do you think that this makes her aromantic?

I am so, so tired of the idea that "aromantic/asexual = emotionless" or vice versa. We have emotions. We just don't experience romantic/sexual attraction. The idea that aromantic people have something wrong with them, that we are somehow broken, is an idea that we should have left behind long ago and I'm fucking tired.