now that my post about breaking down one's idea of what a woman looks like has circulated for a while (thank you all), i'm now going to make this post, as i do not want people to derail that specific conversation, nor this one.
we also must break down our idea of what a man looks, acts, sounds, behaves, and presents like.
men are not cis, het, allosexual or highly sexual beings, tall, muscular, strong, hairy, deep voiced, broad chested/shouldered, emotionless, mean, aggressive, unemotional, uncaring, distant, cold, stoic, heartless, standoffish, bread winners, bad/absent fathers, macho, obligated to work despite disabilities, or obligated to be "the man of the house."
men are people. first and foremost.
men are allowed to express just like anyone else. men do not have to be pillars of their communities. no obligation. men are allowed to be disabled, tired, weak, emotional, caring, compassionate, asexual, aromantic, friendly, warm, in need of support, neurodivergent, mentally ill, chronically ill,and have personality disorders. men have their own struggles and we have to stop telling them to "suck it up" and "move on" and "pull yourself up by your boot straps".
we are forcing men to do this: this is a cage of our own design.
once we dismantle this idea of how a man "should" be, once more: we will move past radfeminism, patriarchy, trans/androphobia, and fostering a culture where this is an acceptable way to treat men. it's not. we must allow men to be diverse. we must allow men to be who they are on the inside
If you are trans I need you to stay alive.
Stay alive for every other trans person fighting, stay alive for every trans person who is no longer here, and most importantly stay alive for yourself.
They don’t get to erase us! They don’t get to take away our rights, and treat us as less than human. Don’t let them erase us, and don’t let them make you a statistic. Don’t let them win.
Stay alive
If you won’t do it for yourself, then do it for others. Do it out of spite.
home is any four walls that enclose the right person 🤍
Hi it's me, the trans man with male privilege people like to talk about. I pass pretty well, cis men often see me as any other dude. But I have trauma commonly associated with womanhood and interacting with a lot of cis men it's clear they've never experienced it, don't understand it, and oftentimes don't care. Some will try to bond with me over woman hate and it's extremely triggering. I don't identify with or have a lot of comradery with cis men and I don't let their misogyny slide, either.
But the queer community is soooo good at explaining my situation to me. It's impossible for a Man to have trauma from misogyny, I'm just saying so to get sympathy. My feelings are irrelevant because I'm not actually being hurt here. In fact, I probably find misogyny affirming and need to be taught a lesson. By identifying as a man I am posing as these guy's ally and enabling them, I should be apologizing for their behavior. /s
Being treated by other men as superior to women is a privilege probably but I really don't feel like I'm winning here. It's alienating on both sides.
you summed it up perfectly. it's alienating no matter what side its coming from. it's still depersonalizing as hell to have to go through with this shit. everyone wants to tell you what your experience is like for you. nobody trusts you to be a reliable narrator. it's fucked up beyond belief.
just saw a guy outside of his workplace playing swords while waiting his coworkers to do their part so that he can work. this should be normalized, actually. normalize having fun in your workplace and having childhood whimsy. I wanna be like that
we talked for a while and he apologised for that. dont apologise, sword guy. keep being you, it's beautiful
please don't apologize, sword guy
“my god, my universe”
“thank you for being the victim of my shallow emotions”
“luka, live with love”
the holy trinity everyone
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Actually, the "F" on my passport is for faggot, not female.
someone send help i dont know what the fuck im doing i literally just got here
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