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Self-care is doing what’s best for you for the long term. Sometimes that means taking it easy, sometimes that means pushing yourself. Sometimes it means saying yes, sometimes it means saying no. Sometimes it’s cutesy, sometimes it’s hard and frustrating and ugly. There is no “one size fits all” when it comes to self-care. Do it your way.

Having a soft heart in a cruel world is courage, not weakness.

Katherine Henson

Mohammed El-Kurd, from Rifqa; “Rifqa”

[Text ID: “I cried—not for the house / but for the memories I could have had inside it.”]

If the only reason why im still here is because people in my life need me why do I feel so lonely all the damn time

““You’re the kind of soul anyone would be lucky to be with, and you don’t even know it, the great ones never do.” - Adrian Michael”

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“But I have infinite tenderness for you. I always will. My whole life.”

— Blue is the Warmest Color

“So, if you are too tired to speak, sit next to me because I, too, am fluent in silence.”

— R. Arnold

“When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. This misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth - just like you did.”

— Unknown

“You will never have to question my loyalty.”

— Unknown

moans get a lot of attention and rightly so but - just someone's breath? hearing it change as you touch them, a gasp when you find just the right spot, getting heavier and faster when they get closer, faltering and ceasing for a moment just before they come, panting, then slowing as they wind down, lying against your chest? i am begging

“I love your name. (…) I pray it into the night till its letters are light.”

— Carol Ann Duffy, from Name in “Rapture”

“I think we all wish we could erase some dark times in our lives. But all of life’s experiences, bad and good, make you who you are. Erasing any of life’s experiences would be a great mistake.”

— Luis Miguel

https://iglovequotes.net/

It’s been a whole week of “I was never good at telling jokes but the punchline goes, I’ll get older but your lovers stay my age, from when your Brooklyn broke my skin and bones, I’m a solider whose returning half her weight, and did the twin flame bruise paint you blue, just between us, did the love affair maim you too, and in the city’s barren cold, I still remember the first fall of snow and how it glistened as it fell, I remember it all too well” being stuck in my head and I wouldn’t have it any other way

“ From my rotting body, flowers shall grow and I am in them and that is eternity. ”

— Edvard Munch

“ August rain: the best of the summer gone, and the new fall not yet born. The odd uneven time. ”

— Sylvia Plath

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“I have lost and loved and won and cried myself to the person I am today.”

— Charlotte Eriksson, Empty Roads & Broken Bottles; in search for The Great Perhaps (via wordsnquotes)

(source: jonmichaelfrank)

Sanober Khan, A Thousand Flamingos

“Part of maintaining your energy is limiting other people’s access to it” - carajojo // isuperbloom.com

They may have said no one would listen. I’m listening.

They may have said no one would care. I care.

They may have said no one would believe you. I believe you.

They were wrong.

How well do you know yourself?

Elementary school made me hate reading, I have a really hard time focusing and that was never addressed. Reading is still something I struggle with but I make time for it everyday, at least 30 to 45 minutes because I greatly fear knowing the same things I know now in 5, 10, 15 years, to not have any new knowledge not even about the most basic of things, it's scary. This fear hit me when I was about 16 for a few reasons and I realized that:

No choice is still a choice.

Not choosing to learn (about myself and the world) meant choosing not to grow as an individual, to be as ignorant as possible by choosing not to learn about the world that I'm living in and that I have an impact on even if it is quite a small impact. I realized that choosing to not learn about who I am can be very dangerous because, if we do not know who we are then we allow others decide for us and we let them define us and we believe the image of us that they have created, to be us.

That's the fastest way to grow depressed whether aware of it or not, it's an easy way to start filling up the voids of your unknown self with superficial things like shopping addiction, food, alcohol, substance abuse, etc.

There's always something missing and empty in people that only live their day to day to keep an image of someone they're not, it is especially true in those who place their value as humans in money and material things.

I believe it all boils down to a great lack of self awareness and a lack of essential knowledge, and both can be achieved with a lot of introspection and also by learning about the world, history, reading and listening about others life story, so to not repeat the destructive patterns of the past, not on yourself and not on others.

Here are some quick exercises to help you measure how well you know yourself by asking yourself these questions:

1. What do I want for myself? (consider career, love, family, etc)

2. Who am I right now and who do I want to become? Am I doing the necessary changes to become that person?

3. Am I living true to myself?

4. What are my virtues?

5. What are my flaws?

6. What things do I like about myself?

7. What are my priorities right now?

8. To what degree have I actually controlled the course of my life?

9. What am I content with and grateful for?

10. What do I like? (consider hobbies, foods, general interests, etc)

Fill in the blanks:

1. I feel happiest with myself when _______________

2. I feel motivated by ____________________

3. My favorite way to spend the day is ________________________

4. If I wasn't afraid I would _____________________

5. If money was no object I would __________________________

Other ways to practice introspection:

1. Keep a journal. This can help you identify negative patterns that repeat in your life therefore allowing you to change them by becoming aware of them. It allows you to reflect on past decisions, allowing you to identify what works and doesn't work for you.

2. Ask yourself "why" three times before making a decision.

Example: "I'm thinking of quitting my job"

"Why?"

"Because I can no longer stand how I am being treated."

"Why?"

"Because my supervisor can be very inconsiderate in many situations, not only towards

me but also towards my co-workers."

"Why?"

"Because the company doesn't have an assertive communication oriented

environment."

You can keep asking yourself why as many times as you need to go deeper therefore getting clarity on what to decide before making a final decision.

3. Pay attention to how you talk to yourself. The way in which your inner speech develops is highly critical .  When talking to yourself keep this in mind: Would you allow anyone to speak to you the way you talk to yourself? . How do you talk to yourself when you make a mistake? and, what about when you succeed at something you're doing? Do you call it luck and downplay your efforts or do you recognize the effort and dedication you put into it?

4. Ask for feedback. Be careful with this one, you should only ask for feedback to people whom you trust that can be direct, unbiased and honest.

5. You can take the free Myers-Briggs Personality Type Test which can help you learn more about yourself.

Books I recommend that can help with getting to know yourself better:

Toxic Parents - Susan Forward

Ikigai - Albert Liebermann and Héctor García

The Sublte Art Of Not Giving a F*ck - Mark Manson