sorry if this has been answered in the past, I looked around for a bit but wasn't able to find an answer. Idk exactly how to word this...how does one exactly spend time with a fictional character/have a relationship? I hope that doesn't sound rude, I'm questioning fictoromantic and wondering how I would actually have a relationship with a character.
hey! moon here. it’s fine, we haven’t been asked before, and repeat questions aren’t the end of the world anyway. don’t worry about your tone, either! there’s no rudeness in just wanting to understand.
as for the actual content of your question, it’s a bit different for everyone. i consider myself committed to my f/o in the same way one would be committed to a real person. in my own relationship, there are a few things i do that address your curiosity and that qualify it in my mind as a relationship in the truly binding sense, aside from just a general feeling of affection and devotion. it’s a bit long and your mileage will almost certainly vary with this, since this sort of thing varies from relationship to relationship and i can only really describe my own feelings and practices. it’s all discussed under the cut.
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I wish more people would write self insert fanfic, it’s so fun and easy to read and I hate the stigma around it.
Q: Everyone says “thoughts become things” and I’ve been thinking about only what I want. Focusing on what I want instead of what I don’t want. But nothing is changing or happening? Why? I’m really frustrated, I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. Also, every time I see people having what I want or are living the life I wish I could have, I get jealous and wonder why I don’t have that and therefore feel bad. And it happens so often too. How can I change that? A: This is one of the most honest questions I have ever been asked. So thank YOU for the opportunity to discuss this. The truth is your thoughts are becoming things, but the missing link is to understand your feelings become things much faster. Here’s how to master both: 1. The first thing is to make a list of your desires, and rank them from the smallest to the biggest goal. And now, make it a point to go after the biggest one. The smaller goals will be fulfilled with very little effort. This is because in focusing on a “big” goal, you are raising your energy past number 5, 4, 3, and 2 to get to 1! 2. When you think of what you want, you are no closer to achieving it. This is not the law of attraction. (I was as shocked as you are right now!) When you think of a goal, the Universe thinks “he/she wants to keep wanting it” and so you stay in that state. The day you begin to imagine you have already fulfilled the goal, then the creative magic begins. Think of it as a 100m sprint: instead of standing at the Start Line imagining the end, put yourself 1st place on the podium accepting the gold medal around your neck! When you shift time in your imagination like this, let yourself start to feel that it could be true, it could be you. 3. What you resist, you attract too. We all have things we don’t want so we try not to think of them. But be honest about your inner mental conversations. Is there something you still feel resentment towards? A situation or a person? What are you scared of, illness or poverty? These are all types of resistance. And resistance is a powerful energy that will keep you stuck in an unhappy cycle unless and until you decide you’ve had enough. Begin today to write the following affirmation out 10 times a day, morning and night: “I release every one to their highest good and me to mine.” If it feels uncomfortable or you make excuses for delaying it, you know that is your resistance speaking! 4. Understand how your life is right now is only a product of how you used to think. You did the best with what you had. The best news is that this is a new moment of creation. You’ve asked the question because you’re ready to take responsibility for your life. Whatever you’re not happy with right now, just let it be for a while. Create one hour a day (minimum) where you write out affirmations, see your “biggest” goal in your imagination, see who you want to be in your imagination, meditate a little, and have positive/calming music playing the entire hour. The music will create a new Neuro-Linguistic Programming in your brain to get you to feel as good about your desires as you do about the songs! 5. Frustration: This one word deserves a paragraph in itself. Decide now that you will no longer let yourself feel frustration. That F word is burning your dreams and birthing jealousy towards people you otherwise love, and is making you judge yourself. Your heart and soul have waited until today for you to be kinder to yourself. Enough is enough. Frustration is a fire. When you feel it creeping back into your mind, pause and try to see who is feeling the frustration? Is it a voice in your mind? Who is listening to it? Realize you are the one that listens to your inner dialogue, you are NOT your thoughts themselves. 6. When you see others have what you want there are a few ways to go about it. You could realize that there is no end to how much you can have, and how much they can have! You can see that the Universe is showing you desires that match yours to show you its listening to you. You can realize how amazing it is that we are all here to be, do and have anything we want. When you feel any envy, just be aware of it and talk to it as you would a child. It is only your ego feeling left out and scared. The ancient ego within us all operates with a fight or flight mentality, and believes if it doesn’t get what it needs to survive then it will die. It’s as simple as that. However, this is a lie and deep down you know it. Somewhere within your feelings, your gut, you know that life is about to get very good for you, and every single person you have the honour of knowing. Conclusion: There’s work to be done to live the life you want, as you can see. Read over this a few times, and begin to take the action listed. And each day, imagine you’re at Day One and try again. The action is easy once you start. Also, try to cut out every negative book, song, TV show, film and piece of news in your life for 30 days. This negativity detox is essential as you begin to change your thinking. Also try to read The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale, he will be a good friend to you right now. Note: If anyone at all has any questions then please feel free to inbox me. I shall answer in this anonymous format so we may all benefit.
Can yall…stop antagonizing people for not being hyperaware of literally everything bad that’s happening in the world.
maybe if we, as a society, spent more time in gardens things wouldn’t be like this
i love when my mutuals r like….obsessed with things and talk about them a lot and are super passionate it makes me so happy and if yall ever feel like ur being annoying i promise you’re not it’s the best thing and it makes my heart warm
*opens a can of Sprite*
Here’s to all the self shippers who have F/O’s-platonical, familial or romantic-who got done dirty and fucked over by their creators.
May we all treat our F/O’s a billion times better then their own pathetic excuse of creators
I had an epiphany
“My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace with exactly who and what I am. To take pride in my thoughts, my appearance, my talents, my flaws and to stop this incessant worrying that I can’t be loved as I am.”
— Anaïs Nin
When people try to argue that what I do with my self-ship goes against canon:
here's some f/o memes!
feel free to use, but please credit :)