Yo so I’m not a shining beacon of happy other-life memories and present-day alterhuman experiences. But I’ve noticed a problem lately where I’ve seen more and more people ask if they’re “valid” because they only have happy memories from their other lives, don’t experience species dysphoria, and are generally fine with being who they are. I’ve even seen some people discount and ignore their happy memories as not being important and go searching for unpleasant and bad ones. So let me Validate™ you all right now. You are allowed to be happy. You’re allowed to have nothing but fond memories of other lives. You’re allowed to be happy with your body and physical form as it is now. You’re allowed to enjoy your identity and the experiences that come with it. Please love yourselves and allow yourselves to be happy. Don’t make yourself miserable for the sake of feeling more important or real or whatever it is people seem to be getting out of all this. And furthermore, please love yourselves and realize that you don’t need the external validation of others. You need to find that within yourselves. I know that we live in a time – and this especially is a website – where a lot of young people are unsure of themselves, have so many potential labels to choose from, are just trying to fit in somewhere, and want to know if they count and belong. I know that it can be hard. But you need to learn that the only way you will ever feel satisfied in the validity of your experiences is when you acknowledge and accept them yourself for what they are. Don’t change yourself or be made to feel like you aren’t really who you are just because there’s one common narrative that you don’t fit into. And if you truly feel like you belong somewhere and can’t find others like you – make a space. Make room for yourself and the people like you will eventually find you. But above all, please. Please. Let yourself be happy if you are happy. Hold on to every shred of happiness you can, because that’s worth more than all the “tru kin suffering” in the world.
I personally believe that as a universe is written or created it comes into existence, and that time is fluid and non-linear and so all universes are always happening in the past, future and present all the same. This is why I have a hard time thinking my "kinself" is any different from me now, because I exist in the past, present and future. AUs and stuff are the same, in that they become a separate world with existing framework, just different. Just offering someone else's take on it. :3
Great perspective, anon! Very interesting.
Illustration by Bruce McNally for the month of October, from the 1984 FRAGGLE ROCK calendar. I’ll do one every month until the new year.
:/ and being reduced to fangirls/fanboys...
I like how most posts about being in love with a fictional character are made as a joke, and then there’s us in the corner like “lol… no, but actually though.”
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PLEASE I NEED TO PROVE THIS THING TO MY MOM
it honestly feels so hurtful & insulting to see people ID as fictionkin for "fun" when my experience with it is extremely personal & intertwined with emotional pain. these people obviously don't understand the unique experiences that come with being fictionkin, however this is tumblr so everyone is 100% "valid".
I tend to agree, anon. Sadly, not everyone understands how hurtful that can be.
“Some people seek meaning in life through personal gain, through personal relationship, or through personal experiences. However, it seems to me that being blessed with the intellect to divine the ultimate secrets of nature gives meaning enough to life.” ~ Michio Kaku
I’m jus being honest
On the side note, it’s okay to not like and/or be uncomfortable of said ship (but don’t send threats or anything of the sort). You’re still valid.
Humans, for the most part, don’t have a clue. They don’t want one or need one, either. They’re happy. They think they have a good bead on things. Men In Black (1997) | dir. Barry Sonnenfeld