Daily Affirmation 682.

carletoncolton - GPOY 2

We’re celebrating TOS’s Birthday - and 9000 followers - with a giveaway!  Click picture captions for more info about prizes and feel free to ask us. 

Rules:

You must be following us at textsfromtos

The giveaway will end on September 8th 2016, the official 50th anniversary :)

Reblog to enter.  Only one reblog will be counted.  Likes will not be counted.  

URLs will be compiled and numbered; numbers will be selected through a random generator.  Winners must be willing to reply to either @graceleewhitney or @howardtjmoon within two days to confirm their prize, name, and shipping address.  (Please note that, while we can address your items to any name, you must provide your real address.)

If we contact you as a winner, please inform us of the three prize sets you are most interested in.  We want to give everyone something they like, but if we cannot accommodate all requests we will let you know.  Requests will be honored in the order of replies, so please get back to us quickly!

At this time, we are only able to ship prize packages within the United States because customs fees are sometimes prohibitive.  If this changes, we will let everyone know.  It would depend on where you live and what prize you want, so… we’ll have to wait and see. 

If you have any questions, please ask here or message either mod directly. 

Have fun and thanks for following us!

Asexual Awareness Week: Day 2

[IMAGE: A 9x9 aesthetic layout; the images are as follows, top to bottom, left to right: A person launching a Chinese lantern, A crumpled up piece of paper with “Don’t Forget Me” written on it, a bed of flowers of varying shades of purple, “You are good enough” written on a purple note, A white neon light in the shape of a realistic heart, A hand covered in purple, blue and white paint, A hand rising out of purple and blue smoke, A notebook and palette of purple paints, A newspaper with “You are born and then you die, but in between you can do anything you want. It’s society that creates rules for us, but you can break out of that” in enlarged text.]

Shuffle Music Meme

You can tell a lot about someone by the music they listen to. Hit shuffle on your iPod/iPhone/iTunes/media player and write down the first 10 songs. Then pass this onto 10 people.

Tagged by: tu-surak (LLAP （ ･＿･）ｖ)

Tagging:

1. Lana Del Rey - The Other Woman

2. Yao Lee - Rose, Rose, I Love You

3. Gorillaz ft. Daley - Doncamatic (Lonsdale Boys Club Remix)

4. Chris Isaak - You Owe Me Some Kind of Love

5. FKA Twigs - How's That

6. Adore Delano - I Adore U

7. Massive Attack ft. Mos Def - I Against I

8. Strawberry Switchblade - Deep Water

9. James Darren - Sophisticated Lady

10. The Ink Spots - Don't Get Around Much Anymore

Want an awesome Star Trek Backpack? Want it for free? Then this is the post for you!

It’s been a bit since my last giveaway, and I know everyone really likes the backpacks, so I thought I’d give one away!

There will be ONE prize: A custom backpack with the fabric of your choice! Or, if a backpack isn’t quite to your taste- any other bag in my shop! Awesome right?

To enter you are allowed ONE REBLOG and ONE LIKE per day. Each note gets you one entry and I’ll use a random number generator to pick the winner. (I’m not responsible for any tumblr fuckary i.e. lost reblog’s or likes.)

You do not have to follow me to enter- however, if you like Star Trek enough to wear a one of these backpacks, I’d say you have a good chance of liking my blog. Also if, when I select your name, I see you’re following me, you’ll get a little extra in your package!

And speaking of something extra: if you place an order between now and the deadline, use the coupon code 10STARTREK at my shop and get 10% off your order! 

The giveaway will close on Saturday June 22nd at 9PM PST. The winner will be tagged in a post and I’ll also send an ask, so be sure yours is open. The winner will have 24 hours to respond to the message. If I don’t receive a response within 24 hours, I will select another recipient.

Good luck!

Out of curiosity, could you take a moment to reblog this if you believe that demisexuality exists? I’m demisexual, and I feel like demisexuality goes really under the radar, even within the asexual community umbrella. A lot of people don’t believe that it exists, and even within the ace community, demisexuality is still questioned as being legitimate, although we share the same flag. So reblog this is if you believe it exists. 

So I saw settlingspace's magical girl!Simra a few days ago, and knew that that was a bandwagon I had to jump on.

Simra Hishkari (dunmerofskyrim) belongs to sunderlorn.

Gillian Anderson said asexual rights and I`m living.

Sex Education S2E4

Dear LGBT community members who don’t think asexuality should be allowed “in”:

I’m biologically female, and I’m not attracted to men. Society told me I was supposed to be, but it never happened, and I spent years of my life feeling broken and wrong. The other option presented to me when I was young was being attracted to women. I watched girls closely, trying to figure it out, but that wasn’t working for me, either. Wanting to be sexually close to another person just baffled me. I swore everyone else was making those feelings up. But they weren’t, and I got older, I realized that and it sunk in that I was just one big weirdo. I was in college when I learned the word for it, and had a breakdown of panic and relief. I can’t begin to put into words how it felt to discover I wasn’t broken–that I was a part of a group of people who felt in their hearts and souls the way I did.

Then came the process of coming out. My friends were a mixed bag, but friends you can pick and choose from if they aren’t supportive.The vast majority of my friends were cool about it, even if they didn’t quite understand. There were assholes, and one suggested “showing me” I was wrong (creepy creepy creepy), but mostly my friends were neutral to positive.

After some select friends, I came out to my family.

My parents told me I was wrong.

It was like being run over by a truck. To this day, I can’t talk about my asexuality around those I love most. It caused one of the only serious arguments I’ve ever had with my parents (I love them and they’re wonderful about 99.9% of the things in my life, but this is one place they weren’t). I was told I just had to find the “right person”, and I would change. That I was too young to understand my feelings (I was in my 20s) towards boys. That I shouldn’t put labels on myself that would make men not want to date me. Because god forbid men not find me attractive! Because clearly, from my conversation with them, what I wanted most of all was to find a man who wanted to get in my pants! Yeah!

Yeah.

It’s not really their fault. We live in a world where happiness is defined as falling in love, getting married, etc. Not wanting another person in your life as your “other half” is an alien concept. Media is flooded with messages of heterosexual normalcy, and now in very small pockets (hopefully growing, because it should! <3), a homosexual option for partnered normalcy. It’s shoved in our faces CONSTANTLY. Our society and government have even set things up to benefit couples financially. Which is fun now that I’m in my 30s and trying to save up for a future family, all by myself. And thankfully, even though they still avoid the word, over a decade later my parents do seem on board with the fact that I’m not pursuing relationships and are supportive of my life choices to save for a family by myself.

Listen. I am by no means saying that I am oppressed as a person the way people attracted to same-gendered people are. I’m not saying I’m oppressed the way the trans community is. I’m not saying any of that. But I AM dealing with a world where who I am is just not “okay”. Where who I am is wrong, where who I am needs to be fixed. Or, in many cases (most cases), where who I am DOES NOT EXIST. I don’t belong in the heterosexual world. I’m an outsider to it. But I’m also an outsider to any world that involves sex and attraction. And as a youth, I had NO WORD to use to describe who I was!

So when asexuals advocate for asexual inclusion in the LGBT community, it’s not because we want to weirdly steal thunder from anyone in your community, or because we want false pity for oppression we haven’t faced the way you have. It’s because we don’t want others to have to grow up the way we did.

We don’t want the world to continue not knowing about our existence. We want asexuality recognized publicly–both so asexuals can learn about themselves in an honest way, and so non-aces see us as legitimate humans. The LGBT world seemed like the natural place for us to go to to ask for inclusion. The place where others might understand what it’s like to grow up in a heterosexual world, as someone who is not. It’s who I first turned to when I discovered the word for myself, only to find immediate pain, rejection, and even mockery. I was horrified.

But I didn’t give up. I couldn’t give up. In 2005, I was in college and gave a talk at my university’s LGBT club. They had never heard of asexuality before, despite being part of a huge liberal university. It was the scariest thing I’d ever done in my life. I had to introduce the concept, and represent the entire community. And then answer a barrage of questions. Personal, personal questions, about my body, my life experiences, everything. And at the end, there was a long period silence. Until one brave person said:

“Wow. You have gone through the same things as us. You said you had some pamphlets about it? Can we put them in our office? People need to know about this. I can’t imagine growing up not knowing about homosexuality. As scary as it was for me, at least I had a word for it.”

I broke down crying and gave them all the pamphlets I had ordered. Many of them started crying, too. We became a blubbering mess in that meeting room. In that moment, I thought I had found a community who understood after all.

Did I? I suppose that’s up to you. But please, take some of this into consideration before you say that asexuals shouldn’t have a letter in your acronym, or should make their “own, separate” community. We’re unknown and invisible in so many ways, but nevertheless hurting in ways I think many of you can sympathize with and understand. It’s not that we’re attracted to the “wrong” sex or gender. It’s that we’re not attracted to the “right” one. And holy crap, the world just isn’t super friendly or understanding to people like that. Like us.

Thank you.

This is your reminder that ace rings are as old as 2005

2005

It’s almost 2020 as of writing this so do the math… that’s about 15 years old

AVEN was founded in 2001

The asexual flag was announced as the official asexual flag in 2010

The ace rings are older than the ace flag and only about four (4) years younger than AVEN

Keep this info laying around somewhere, you’ll need it whenever an acephobe on tumblr makes a claim about the asexual community