'If You Let Me Live... I'll Come Back.'

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My theory of adhd management is that in order to focus there are 4 things that need to be sufficiently occupied:

Eyes

Ears

Hands (or body)

Brain

And if you aren’t occupying them enough or there’s too many things demanding the use of one, it’ll start to wreck havoc on your ability to do things.

So for example, listening to a podcast. This occupies your ears and brain as you focus on both listening and processing what you hear, but it leaves your hands and eyes completely without anything to do. If you tried to sit down and just listen to a podcast by itself you’d probably get unbearably bored and stop doing it.

But if you pair that activity with something that uses your hands and eyes, like a craft, household chore, or commute, suddenly you’re fully plugged in and can in fact focus better on both tasks than you could if you tried doing them separately.

It’s also why you can’t listen to a podcast while doing homework; you’re trying to use your brain for two different tasks. To occupy your ears while doing homework (which is already using eyes, brain, and hands) you need something for your ears that doesn’t require your brain: music. Specifically music that doesn’t use too much brain power, which is why some people prefer instrumentals or songs in other languages.

Hyperfixation and sensory overload change this by moving the threshold for how much sensory input you need to be able to function. If I’m extremely focused on a craft project (eyes, hands, brain) I might not even need something for my ears; my interest in the project makes up for it. If i’ve had a very overwhelming day, trying to listen to an audiobook while I do some stretches could be too much to process. My brain needs a break.

Video games, which pretty much universally occupy all 4 areas, are basically instant, easy focus wrapped up in a neat little bow. No wonder adhd-havers tend to love them.

If you’re struggling with a task, try looking at which areas it occupies and which are left unattended. Then try to find something enjoyable to fill those gaps, and see if that helps.

I like to headcanon that it was his job to take care of the bathroom fish tank

Reasons for disliking neurodivergent masking:

- Masking requires a lot of cognitive effort, which is draining and can lead to Autistic burnout and exhaustion and burnout symptoms for ADHD people

- Autistic and ADHD people who mask more show more signs of anxiety and depression, and the strategy may even been linked to an increase in suicidal behaviours in autism

- Masking doesn't masking change the judgements that non-autistic peers made towards autistic people’s social behaviours

- Masking makes you feel disconnected from your true sense of identity

- Masking may delay the identification of one's autism and ADHD and delayed ADHD diagnosis has been linked to, among others, substance abuse

- Masking ADHD can lead to perfectionism and lowered self-esteem and isolation and feelings of loneliness

repost bcs so funny

@mintiliciouss

au by @goomyloid !

The fish

There was a little fish

It lived in little house

There was no water in its room

And house was made of glass

Therefore it couldn’t really breath

And life was pretty hard

But little fish was fine by that

It thought that was alright

That all the fishes have it hard

And maybe even worse

It really should be quiet

And just do its daily job

***

I wrote some poem in English. And like it was supposed to be an allegory to neurodiversity, but then I remembered the „im nothing like yall“ meme 😭

10 months late, but with my humble watercolors ofering

Also, If I could paint people I would be unstoppable (and unbearable)