Romanticizing Mental Illness Is Dangerous And Misleading

i bet the stars would be so proud to know their fragments created someone like you

i have thought a lot about censorship and what is “appropriate”. not a lot of people know this, but lolita was written to show what we allow on our bookshelves: there being no swear words in it meant it was free from censorship. a book about child molestation was allowed because it didn’t explicitly use the word “fuck”. he wrote it to show we don’t really care about protecting children, and it ended up being seen as a romance.

someone once told me - actually, many people have - that lgbt content isn’t appropriate for children. any content. not just kissing. i’m drowned in questions: “won’t the parents have to explain it?” “kids shouldn’t be thinking about sex at this age, or do you think differently?” “what will the kids think?”

at six i saw disney movies. people kiss and get married. i didn’t ask “what does that mean.” i didn’t ask “are those people going to have sex?” i didn’t ask anything, because i was six, and no six year old thinks twice about these things. nobody ever “explained” being straight to me, it was a fact, and it existed, and i was fine with that. why would being gay require a thesis, i wonder.

someone once told me that the one of the reasons people hate lgbt individuals is because they can’t see us as anything but sexual. we’re not people, so much as sinners. that they don’t see love, they see sex. just sex. it’s perversion, not a matter of the heart. only of the body.

i think i was in my early twenties before i saw someone like me. 

how old were you, though, before you saw violence? before you saw sexual assault on tv? i think something like that is only pg-13, and if it’s implied, they can get away with anything. i remember watching things and learning about blood, but knowing sex - sex was what was really wrong. sex was always rated r. sex was always kind of a bad word. i was told a lot that i wasn’t ready.

i had a dream last night that i made a site where people could ask any question they wanted about sex and get answered by a professional. it was shut down in moments because 15 year olds wanted to know if it should hurt, if “double-bagging” was a real thing, if this, if that. we shudder. don’t let the children know about that! 

but at thirteen i had seen enough violence it no longer struck me. i couldn’t say “fuck” but i knew that if you break your femur, you can bleed out internally in under half an hour. in school i wasn’t allowed to write about loving girls because what would the administration think - but i could write about wanting to kill myself and people would say how lovely, how blistering.

i have thought a lot about censorship. sometimes people on this site try it with me: don’t write this, don’t be so nasty. some of it is intrinsic. we know as people with a uterus not to complain about “that time of the month”, we know better than to talk about sexual assault (how shameful), we know that talking about a vagina is somehow scandalous. i can say “dick” and nobody questions me. some people only refer to the bottom half of me by “pussy”. they won’t wrap a mouth around “vagina” like it’s poison to them. even discussing this, that the language halts, that there’s an intrinsic desire to say “girls” instead of “women” - feels naughty, illicit. not for children.

the other day someone suggested i make my blog 18+. i said, okay, it deals a lot with depression and other problems that might be for a mature audience. oh no, they said, that’s not it, i think that’s helpful. i said, okay. so what is it then. well, you’re gay. you write about loving women. and i said, i don’t write about sex often and they said. it’s not about the sex. but wlw isn’t for a general audience. teenagers aren’t ready.

oh.

lolita is recommended for high school and up. i think about that a lot. i know girls who love it, who say it speaks to them on a deep level. it’s beautiful prose, after all. that was the whole point of the novel. something that looked like a rose but was intrinsically awful. i think about how if i was a model they’d want me to look young, thin, prepubescent. how my body would be sold and how through the mall i walk by images of barely-clothed women while mothers cannot breastfeed in public without fear of retribution. 

i think about how i can write a novel about violence and it will be pg-13 but if my characters say “fuck” twice it’s inappropriate. i said fuck three times so far in this post, which makes it only appropriate for adults. 

i think about that, and how my identity is something that people suggest lines up with a swear word. that people shouldn’t talk about it. that it’s a vulgarity. bad for children, harsh, confusing.

fuck. i love women. which one makes this only for those over eighteen.

Funny how y'all mfs posting paragraphs about Sulli and how mental health is important, how hate affects idols irl are the same fucking hypocrites who went on their keyboards and wrote/spread real hate about someone on their birthday to the point where the hate for him was deadass trending in his own homecountry.

What do y'all think that idols don’t see the hate? Multiple idols time and time again have said that cyber bullying is what affects them the most and makes them insecure and what not but all you insensitive assholes get up on twitter everyday and treat these real people like absolute shit just cause you can and then when something like this happens y'all are the first ones who have stuff to preach.

It’s the same vicious fucking cycle. All of kpop twitter will be making tweets about not being mean to idols anymore but i’ll give it a few days and y’all will be right back to bullying them relentlessly ruthlessly nonstop just for the fucking fun of it. Y’all do not care so don’t pretend like you do. Your hypocrisy is a damnation to the people we’ve lost cause of shitheads like you. The way kpop twitter joined hands just yesterday to hate on a person on his birthday just cause you fucking could and now you get up on Twitter to talk about how online hate affects a persons mental health. Nah, fuck you. Fuck you real bad.

Y'all motherfucking hypocrites for preaching about not spreading hate for idols today when it was some of you filthy people who went out of their way yesterday just to hate on someone for have been born? Fuck you and your double standards. People like Jonghyun and Sulli are never the problem, motherfuckers like YOU are and that’s that on that.

The specific fandoms who targeted him on his very birthday yesterday and made a whole hate hashtag trend against him, ya’ll know who you are; X1, EXO, MonstaX, NCT fans. It’s people like YOU who cause things like this. If y’all don’t want your name to be dragged through dust then learn to be decent human beings. 

Y'all ashamed? Y'all motherfuckers should be!

autumnal asks

lantern - how did you meet your best friend? What were your first impressions of each other?

frost - if you could give some advice to your younger self, what would you say?

maple - is there a hobby / skill that you’ve always wanted to try but never did?

harvest - what fictional character do you most identify with? Why?

fireside - if you had your dream wardrobe, what would it look like?

cider - a food that you disliked as a child but now enjoy?

amber - share an unpopular opinion that you may have.

fog - how well do you think you’d do in a zombie apocalypse scenario?

jack-o-lantern - if you could look like any celebrity, who would you choose?

spice - have you ever encountered a house that you believed to be haunted?

orchard - share one thing that you’d like to happen this autumn.

crow - which school subject do you wish you had an aptitude for?

bonfire - describe your dream house.

cinnamon - if you had to live in a time period different than the present, which would you choose and where?

cobweb - (if you’ve graduated) do you miss high school?

cranberry - what’s one physical feature that you get complimented on?

maize - share the weirdest encounter you’ve had with a stranger on the street.

quilt - how do you take your tea (or coffee)?

pumpkin - do you think that humans are inherently good or bad?

moonlit - are you a neat or messy person? Is your room / house orderly?

flannel - have you ever gone on a bad date? 

cocoa - if you could have any type of hair, what colour and cut would you have?

ghost - is there someone that you miss having in your life?

I think I want my next piercing to be through my heart with a wooden stake

I can personally relate to Wanda because I too create an entire AU with my mind to escape this reality.

SAM’S VALENTINE’S DAY COUNTDOWN ↳ 4. GLENN & MAGGIE (The Walking Dead)

Maggie, I’ll find you…

“I’m not used to being loved. I wouldn’t know what to do.”

— F. Scott Fitzgerald; More Than Just a House

“What is done with love is done well.”

— Vincent van Gogh (via goodreadss)