I Don't Like It When Others Refer To Me As A Dog.

i don't like it when others refer to me as a dog.

thats something only I can call myself.

(discussing trauma related to being treated like a pet or servent, please proceed with caution. nothing graphic is discussed but just incase)

when others call me a dog...it makes me so uncomfortable and it feels like its connected to really deeply repressed problems that the overall system has had.

being treated as a servent and being seen as something less. expected to follow orders. to stay in line. to always be at beck and call.

i can call myself a dog cause that doesn't hold any meaning behind it. but when someone else starts to treat us like a dog or call us "good boy" it triggers this...fawning in us. such a deeply rooted fear. fear connected to harmful and painful consequences if we do not do what we are told. so we try to be this "good boy". do what they want and they will leave us be. that kind of thought process.

i can see why dune is so uncomfortable with the idea of wearing a collar. as nice as it would be to be able to...i feel similarly.

as something that has been treated as less than human and unworthy of basic human rights...i can see why we have such a strong want to reclaim nonhumanity for ourselves.

others can be dogs and enjoy it. but i can't. and neither can Dune. i may be a wolfdog, but i dont wanna explore any kind of possible "dogness" or breeds or anything.

im happy for those who can love being a dog and all that comes with it and enjoy the companionship of humanity.

i can remember enjoying times with the scientists too...

but i cannot allow others to refer to me as a dog or treat me like one. it is deeply deeply triggering for us.

Sonar and Dune both struggle greatly with feeling like they must serve humanity. it was so so so drilled into them that they were the ones to be walked all over and not respected.

i hold similar fears of humanity just cause that trauma runs so deep in us. i feel ashamed cause its such a...""sterotype"" of being nonhuman. unfortunately its an uncontrollable factor for us.

i cannot help that our brain has made us associate all humans with danger. its unfortunate and i want us to be able to let that go someday. but its not going to be soon.

i just...have seen others talking about hardships with being associated with dogs. and how it can be triggering. i saw a lot of ourselves in those posts.

we struggle similarly with a lifetime of having it be taught to us that we are not worthy and how below others we are.

i hope one day that i can learn to love the dog part of myself. and embrace all the quirks and joys of it. but it is not going to be soon and it hurts and causes severe flashbacks for us rn.