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How to Develop the Functions

Here are some tips to strengthening each of the eight functions. I would suggest strengthening the weaker functions in your stack primarily, and put less focus in on your shadow functions. If you are in a loop, this can be used to develop your auxiliary function. You can also use it to generally develop your tertiary and especially inferior functions if these are weak. Having a developed inferior function can also help prevent you from falling into “the grip”, so it’s good to try to have a good control over all of your functions. 

Extroverted Feeling (Fe): Find a close friend and share how you’re feeling with them. Journal about your feelings and read them over to yourself or someone else. Talk to a therapist if these outlets aren’t enough for you. Reach out a hand to help others out: volunteer, give someone advice, listen to someone talk about their problems. Find groups of people or situations where you can put yourself in the shoes of others so you can develop your empathy skills. Find situations where you are around those you care about. Ask others their opinions on decisions that affect others, and take time before you take action to consider how it will affect the people around you. Ask for affirmation from those closest to you, and remind yourself to give it to others as well. Examine the facial expressions and manners of speaking of those around you and try mimicking them.

Introverted Feeling (Fi): Study an area of morality and ethics that interests you, and consider what your viewpoints on the situation are. Consider why humans as a whole or other people in your life do the things that they do, and how morality as a concept even exists. Consider social justice arguments and find one that you have a strong opinion on. Take time to step back and consider how you are feeling, what values you are exerting, what your likes and dislikes are in a certain situation. Consider yourself as an independent, unique individual with a set of morality outside of society. Journal about your feelings. Think about what is important to you in your life and what motivates you personally.

Extroverted Thinking (Te): Try to develop your ability to be assertive: ask for that raise, propose something ambitious, etc. Formulate your ideas into a concrete plan and share them with someone around you. Use data and facts to back up your assertions. Plan an event or other project and focus on the whole over the details. Remember that external organization and structure is necessary in a society, and try to incorporate your skills and plans into one around you. Develop your aura of confidence and consider how others view you in a professional light. Take charge of a project and lead with self-assurance.

Introverted Thinking (Ti): Find some word game, puzzle, riddle, etc. that challenges your intellect and causes you to think. Find something that interests you and research it until you fully understand its intricate details. Have an intellectual debate or discussion. Apply yourself to some hobby or area of study and try to develop your internal sense of discipline and focus. Look at projects and consider the weak points and areas of improvement. Take time to draw back and consider things in an objective light, understanding the situation instead of becoming emotionally influenced. Develop your sense of independence, and work on projects that allow you to use your personal skills and get a sense of personal achievement.  

Extroverted Intuition (Ne): Play games or engage in activities that encourage divergent thinking and creativity. Think about some event (general or specific) coming up in the future and imagine all the great things that could happen during it. Surround yourself with people and pieces of art/literature/movies that are creative and exciting. Look at the future as a place of exciting opportunities, not of possible anxieties. Make a bucket list of things you could do in your life that excite you: the crazier, the better. Think about the things that you would want to change in your life. Brainstorm all the possible ways you could do it. Go on a spontaneous adventure with your friends.

Introverted Intuition (Ni): Watch a stranger out in public and try to paint a picture of what type of person they are from the way that they look. Reflect on the underlying themes or symbolism of a book or movie. Look at the overt facts of a situation or how someone is acting and piece them together to try to understand what is actually going on underneath the surface: how they are actually feeling, etc. Take individual pieces of information and concisely bring them together to form one general idea. Project yourself or a situation into the future and try to understand what will most likely come to be. Reflect on why things are the way that they are, even seemingly straightforward things. Follow your gut belief in a situation.

Extroverted Sensing (Se): Find a hobby such as a sport, artistic endeavor, craft, etc. Work with your hands on a project and try to physically understand how something works. Take a walk somewhere in nature or go to a museum and focus on the specific details of the beauty around you. Listen to music and try to pay attention to the individual sounds. Remember to live in the moment and experience life as it is happening around you. Do something spontaneous and crazy with your friends. Take a step back and remember to take things for as they are, and not to overanalyze anything. Think about the things that you want to or need to do this moment and go do some of them.

Introverted Sensing (Si): Take out old photos and try to place yourself in the emotions and experience of when you were there. Go visit a place of old memories or watch a movie you loved as a child. Re-start up an old family tradition. Create some sort of routine in your life to give you a bit of reassurance and organization. Appreciate the simple things in life and seek the unassuming nature of contentment. Reflect on the lessons you have learned in a situation once it has passed. Realize that not all mistakes need to be made, and that sometimes it is better to stick with what is safe.

INFJ gets a job

INFJ: I have to get a job in order to make money and survive in this world…..

*gets hired for a new job*

INFJ: I hate working

INFJ: I forgot to remember what they are teaching me

INFJ: I’ll just go with it

INFJ: Im trying to not have anxiety that I have to work. every. day.

INFJ: I want to be free

INFJ: You can’t tame my spirit

INFJ: Today I work this crap job, tomorrow my dreams will come true

How To Start Conversation with MBTI Types

ESTP: ask them where to get the best offer for something

ESFP: ask them if they’re going to *insert a popular band’s next concert*

ISTP: watch a gory movie, guess how they do the effects

ISFP: ask for song recs, ask their fav band and said band’s best song(s)

ENTP: scroll through 9gag/other meme page/mutual fandom tumblr tag together, then compare your headcanons

ENFP: ask, “Which movie(s) you’re definitely going to watch in cinema this year?”

INTP: ask them to explain one of the logical fallacy

INFP: self-inserts yourselves into a serial you both love

ESTJ: ask their help to assemble IKEA products

ESFJ: ask about work, their last holiday, anything, and/or tell them about your (crappy) day

ISFJ: invite them out to your gang’s get-together

ISTJ: ask tips to stay organized. Avoid too many small talks

ENTJ: discuss about your state’s/country’s/world politics. And politicians

ENFJ: talk about what you aim for in 5 or 10 years later.

INFJ: talk about whether euthanasia is morally right

INTJ: discuss ideologies. If you don’t know much, ask them to explain what Communism is and isn’t

Go somewhere you've never been

You might be an NTJ if ...

NTJ refers to ENTJs and INTJs.

You do a cost-benefit analysis on nearly every aspect of your life

You admire people who check you, challenge you, and call you on your shit

You often feel you should have your boss’ or coworker’s job and salary because you’re smarter and more competent

People view you as an overachiever, but you see yourself as an underachiever with still so much more to do

Your introverted friends have summoned you for assistance as their representative, lawyer, or gladiator

You know an idea is stupid and won’t work before everyone else and you’re waiting for them to catch up and realize this too

You have high expectations of other people and often want more for their lives than they want for themselves

You spend half a debate/discussion/conversation conveying your ideas and the other half convincing the other person you weren’t angry this entire time

Small talk is excruciating

The gifts you love the most are the ones you can really use

Fate surprises you sometimes. I just think you can have a plan in life, a good one, but that plan isn’t necessarily what fate has in store for you. Sometimes what fate thinks you need is so much better than what you had planned.

Holly Martin, Fairytale Beginnings (via bookquotesbook)

Sherlock-The Final Problem

Family is all that matters. MYCROFT willing to sacrifice his life for Sherlock and Sherlock knowing that it's just Mycroft's way of telling him to shoot him. I know their family is really messed up but they still care for each other in their own convoluted way.

“Always been able to keep myself distant… Divorced myself from… feelings… but look, you see? Body’s betraying me. Interesting, yes? Emotions.”

( ͡°‿ʖ ͡°)

ok can we agree that the WORST feeling is when you’re just sitting around consciously procrastinating and you’re just overly aware that each second that passes is more time wasted and you like watch hours pass and you’re STILL procrastinating and you CANT STOP and your panicked brain is trapped inside a body that refuses to be productive and inside you’re screaming but outwardly you’re just eating chips 

MBTI and heartbreak~

(If this does not apply to you, I do apologize. These are purely from my own impressions and experiences.)

ISTJ: When ISTJs go through a heartbreak, they are like zombies. Blank faces with a lot of stormy emotions underneath that they have no idea what to do about. They will often feel loneliness and won’t hop on to another relationship easily.

ISFJ: During a bad time, ISFJs will become incredibly moody and unreasonable. Anything can set them off and trigger their tempers and outbursts as well as plenty of self-pity. They will get over it quickly and are quick to make up to people whom they’ve wronged, but the cycle quickly repeats itself. 

INFJ: It takes INFJs a long time to get over a heartbreak. There will be plenty of thinking as well as weeping. Eventually, they will fast learn that whatever is done is done and they cannot change the past. Soon enough, they have gotten over everything as if it never happened and will smile again. 

INTJ: After heartbreak, it is as if all the emotions they had kept so well-hidden had finally snapped. They cannot comprehend this despairing feeling as well as confused as to how these feelings can be so erratic and chaotic inside their calm disposition. After this passes, their days will be numb and zombie-like.

ISTP: They will hurt and hurt a lot and they have a special way of showing it: biting sarcasm and cynicism. It still hurts though. 

ISFP: They will cry and vent to friends and families. After that, they either go into emotional withdrawal or move on rather fast. 

INTP: Don’t worry, they’re fine…No. They are not. But after a long time of brooding, frustrations and contemplation, they will come to terms with the situation and move on with their lives. 

ESTP: Heartbreak is not such a bad thing for this social butterfly. They simply think of it as an experience to be learned but every so and then, they will have thoughts back on it and feel a strange sense of melancholy and nostalgia.

ESFP: What? Heartbreak? Impossible. -broken and tearful laughters-

ENFP: ENFPs will be rather overdramatic and vocal during heartbreak about their wounds and hurts. They will demonstrate to their peers about how broken they are with negativity and drinking may be involved. However, these are one of the few types that are able to get over their heartbreak the fastest because of the constantly active Fi and its fickleness. 

ENTP: They will vent and cry it all out. But once it’s done for an ENTP, it is absolutely done and they are ready to go out with the world again.

ESTJ: Silence. It is hard to tell what the ESTJs are thinking during horrible times as they like to keep every single complaints and sadness to themselves. They look nonchalant and indifferent from the distance, but upon closer inspection, you can tell they have never forgotten and possibly haven’t gotten over the heartbreak. 

ESFJ: ESFJs during heartbreak will try to heal themselves by ranting and complaining to other people showing them how it’s not them whose heart is broken, but the person who broke their heart. They will try to come off cool as if they are not bothered by anything, but their gossips and rants naturally give everything away.

ENFJ: This is a really sad and unbelievable time for them. ENFJs will constantly question why things went wrong and why was it not fixable. They will probably shed a few tears over this honestly. After that, they start blaming themselves for wrongdoings that they probably didn’t even do.

ENTJ: On the outside, they look completely controlled, self-possessed and utterly impeccable as if they have no care for other people’s miserable souls. On the inside, it feels as if they had been stabbed a thousand times. They do not move on as fast as they like to think they do.

INFP: Contrary to popular belief, INFPs move on the fastest. Because they are so full of internal feelings, by the time of actual heartbreak, they have already used up all of their energy and now there is nothing left but absolute apathy and smiles as they easily move on and leave your sorry ass behind.