This Is So Me.

I feel so... down whenever I want to watch queer or trans videos because I know in the back of my mind that none of the current large queer content creators' content or community is safe for people like me, intersex people.

I love their work otherwise, but it hurts badly to hear them toss around casual intersexism in their videos constantly when discussing queer and trans issues and nobody ever mentions it.

And because these are large, popular creators, nobody has ever listened when I've tried to ask they adjust their language. My dms go ignored or unseen and my public comments get drowned out by fans defending their intersexist comments. It's emotionally draining and exhausting, I just want to be included in my own community.

Made the playlist [it's still wip because I'm trying to find more songs that fit them]

trying to make a playlist for tang428 [that's the ship name I came up with lol] and I'm wondering what song fits their relationship better in term of development

Because on one hand you can think of

As the start of their relationship [especially with how tang's blood helped 428 grow and become stronger although I disagree with the song after the infection arc because their relationship becomes much more closure than "blood vessel" and a "mushroom"]

And I do think that say it by The Crane Wives fit their relationship in the sense of the description in novel.update how tang left the game and that means he left behind 428 [although I did not read the full mtl because I hate Reading them and would rather read a fully translated novel but that's just me lol]

I do need other songs for them!!

Anyone can recommend anything tbh as long as it fits the vibe of RLM!! [Also read these lyrics with 428 in mind btw]

While we're talking about how triggers aren't one size fits all, can we also talk about how sometimes they're just plain stupid??

I can read, write, and watch rape scenes with minor discomfort, but a dubcon drunk makeout scene in a TV14 show made me shut down and turned me off of the show for a month because it reminded me of something that happened to me.

I can watch gore, body horror, and slashers galore with no problem, but watching people slice loaves of bread with razor blades on Bake Off made me feel sick because it reminded me of my own self harm.

Does it make sense? No. But that's just how it is for me. No two traumas are the same, and it's so selfish to think that someone exploring something traumatic in fiction, in any way, is a reflection of you and your situation.

You own what happened to you, but you don't have a monopoly on trauma lmao. You don't get to dictate how people write about these things. And you don't get to decide who is and isn't valid based on how they explore difficult topics in FICTION.

aside from the fact that that's not how queer community works in the slightest, the reason why the "queer spaces are safe spaces for women" bullshit falls on its face is because some women are also men. what are you gonna do about it? cry? shit yourself? have an existential crisis over whether or not that person is "safe" based on their genders instead of just talking to them like a person? misgender them? label them as a threat?

some ""non-men"" are also men.

now what.

trying to make a playlist for tang428 [that's the ship name I came up with lol] and I'm wondering what song fits their relationship better in term of development

Because on one hand you can think of

As the start of their relationship [especially with how tang's blood helped 428 grow and become stronger although I disagree with the song after the infection arc because their relationship becomes much more closure than "blood vessel" and a "mushroom"]

And I do think that say it by The Crane Wives fit their relationship in the sense of the description in novel.update how tang left the game and that means he left behind 428 [although I did not read the full mtl because I hate Reading them and would rather read a fully translated novel but that's just me lol]

I do need other songs for them!!

Anyone can recommend anything tbh as long as it fits the vibe of RLM!! [Also read these lyrics with 428 in mind btw]

a comic about my weird irreverence for canon

go write a bad ending AU! ship your self-insert oc with your favourite villain!! the world's your oyster!!!

Just wanna say that i absolutely adore your pfp lmao

Thank youuuu!!! [Lesboy sampo always live in my mind]

me when the media got abusive gay relationship

reasons to care about trans men & mascs

we're people

Hey gentle reminder that you can ignore those "Reblog! If you don't you're [extremely upsetting label here]" posts. You should ignore them, btw. You don't suddenly become a racist because you ignored someone trying to farm interaction, you don't become homophobic because you felt bad about exposing your followers and friends to that, you don't become a bigot because of other people trying to guilt trip you.

If you're not purposely causing harm to minority groups or hold bigoted beliefs, you don't suddenly become a bigot because you ignored someone being an ass. You're allowed to ignore guilt tripping messages and if someone gets irritated at you for ignoring them, tell them to get a grip. 🫂

Likewise, you're allowed to ignore:

Guilt tripping spam asks.

Scam asks.

"Reblog if your account is [group] safe!" posts

"If you don't reblog, I'm going to assume you're a [insert term here]" posts

"People are dying, you can spare some time to reblog" posts

Posts that show actual pictures of real life tragedy with the intent of hoping you spread it across the platform.

"How dare you donate to Ao3/Wikipedia when there's [insert other tragedies here] going on!" posts

Posts that imply that you shouldn't have a safe space and that it's cruel to have your account be a safe space.

Posts that say you shouldn't be happy while there's tragedies going on in the real world.

At the end of the day, 90% of those posts use the "other people have it worse" mindset and that ISN'T HEALTHY. You don't tell someone that's happy they aren't allowed to be happy because someone else is happier than them at the moment, so don't do it for pain and suffering.

Anyway, I suggest you block the people that make guilt tripping posts. Better for your mindset in the long run and people need to realize they can get their point across without triggering people's OCD/thought spirals.