Daveandyourwife - Untitled

Is this what you had in mind when you booked a spa day?

Definitely would be a bad idea for you to pressure your wife to choose between you and her boyfriend. In fact, you realize now that you really do need to pray that HE doesn't ask her to choose, because it's obvious what her choice would be.

You know where she's going. You know who she's going with. You know what they'll be doing. And you know nobody will spare you a second thought.

The days of her wanting you to be okay with it, and of coming home and letting you clean her up while she teased you with the details of the night are long gone.

She'll just come home, shower, and go to sleep, same as always now. No mean texts, no sexy pictures, no lurid details. Nothing.

You're a helpmeet. You're a flatmate. You're an ATM. You're not a cuckold, you are irrelevant.

So... don't wait up.

Go to bed. Catch up on some sleep. Do your duolingo. Binge watch that show you like. Binge eat cheetos while you play world of warcraft. Binge jerk to #loser porn. Get black doms off in chat rooms pretending to be her. Try on her clothes. Put something in your butt. Do whatever the fuck you want.

But don't wait up.

It'll hurt a whole lot less if you don't wait up.

Your wife hasn't seen her ex in a couple of years, so you were quite surprised when he contacted you to mention that he'd be coming to town and would love to be able to see her, but he said he thought it best to contact you to check on whether you thought she would be interested in seeing him. Your wife has told you a couple of times that even though her break up with him was a little rough, she did still sometimes think about the sex they had together, which she said was really intense and deeply satisfying because he was so well endowed -- much better endowed, she said, than you.

Your first inclination was to tell him not to visit, but then you realized that would not be fair to your wife, so you checked with her, and a bit to your surprise, she said she'd love to see him. So you emailed him back to tell him that she was interested, and then he suggested taking her out to dinner -- and made it clear he was not suggesting that you come along. By then, it was a little late in the process for you to say you weren't comfortable with that, so you just gave it all your blessing.

And now that your wife has raised the question of having sex with him, it was obvious she was eager for that to be part of their "reunion", so you tried to hide your hurt feelings and jealousy, and told her she should do whatever it was she most wanted to do without worrying about your feelings.

You’re always allowed to flirt with them 😍