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ok but kissing someone when they’re dominating the kiss is a whole other level of experience. like when they wrap their hand around your throat and kiss you in that controlling, demanding way. it feels like all you can do is follow their lead and it makes your head go fuzzy in pleasure. bonus points if they push you by your throat against a surface and pin you there.

Sunday Ladies #60-23

Maintenance Spankings

As part of the corporal punishment plan I have created in our wife-led marriage, maintenance spankings have become a weekly event.

They will happen spur of the moment, without forewarning and never scheduled, to keep him guessing when they will occur. This also allows me to choose when they will happen, as ensuring that I'm in the right frame of mind, (never mad but feeling sadistic) is important for my enjoyment.

He surrenders himself to accept pain and discomfort at my will, and for me, the surrender is just as important as the spanking itself.

I make him fetch the spanking implements so that he is actively collaborating in his own punishment, a highly submissive act. I have a very strict rule that he is to never, ever, touch with his own hands any equipment used for punishment. I keep them locked away in a duffel bag unless they are being used on him. When he fetches the implements, he carries this bag by the handles with his teeth while his hands remain clasped behind his back.

Bending over, putting himself across my lap to be spanked is another highly submissive act. By doing so, he is already ceding most of his power to me. Although far from severe, the leather paddle I use induces a nasty sting that is quite unpleasant.

I never swing any punishment implement without the intent of causing pain. We don't do funishments anymore, as I worry mixing pleasure and pain in spankings could turn him into a pain slut. I never want that to happen as I really love using spankings as a punishment and it would ruin it. Our discipline sessions never include warm up strokes for the same reason.

By remaining in position over my knee, he is accepting that the punishment and pain will continue, again, a highly submissive act. The spanking ends only when I decide, and that is usually when I feel he has reached contrition and total submission, often in tears.

Aftercare is then lovingly applied by putting him to my breast to suckle me, as we find that dry adult nursing is a great way for us to bond.

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There are various benefits to maintenance spankings in our Wife-led marriage. They include:

1. First and foremost, they create and maintain the inequality that our dynamic is based on, at fairly regular intervals, constantly reminding us of our proper places and roles in the relationship. They leave him feeling completely submissive, ceding all his power to me, and giving me the absolute authority to rule over him. In essence, a total power exchange.

2. It ensures that I will harbor no resentment against him for any micro-aggressions he may have committed recently. He may have shown slight disrespect, disobeyed me, forgotten to complete a task or ritual, or lacked proper submission at some point throughout the week. If he has done something to disappoint me, it ensures he is properly punished for it, allowing closure in the matter and my total forgiveness. No need to give him the silent treatment because I'm mad at him anymore.

3. It acts as an emotional release. Most males aren't very good at expressing their emotions, and being spanked to tears can be an excellent catalyst for helping him to release any tension or stress that may have built up, before they become toxic in nature. He seems to be happiest and at peace with himself after a recent spanking and he is so respectful to me.

4. It prevents more severe punishment. By giving him a milder taste of the pain he would endure from the strap or the cane, it reminds him that he needs to behave himself, sparing him from such drastic corrections being needed. A little spanking goes a long way to keep him obedient.

That moment when your friend asks you if she could practice some rope ties on you. And you thought she is very inexperienced. But you realised too late she is very experienced in bondage, and brought some serious bondage gear. You noticed how much she enjoys tying you up…. And there is no way out of it now…. Probably for the rest of the day.