Look At You! How Can I Not Pout About Being Locked Up!

troubleshooting your chastity lifestyle - part 1/2

i will often get messages from followers about problems that they are having in their chastity relationship. lets start the new year by trying to fix some of these problems. instead of responding to everyone individually ill be spending the next few posts answering some of the common problems people are having.

many keyholders have expressed frustration that they aren’t quite getting the submission and/or the loving attentive and affection husband that is promised by chastity. or they are getting it for a little while and then it goes away. i’ve noticed some common mistakes that people are making…

1, avoid the “lock it and leave it” mistake. chastity is NOT something that can be passive! keyholders must play an active part in the game being played. the surest way to fail to achieve all the benefits of chastity is to just lock your partner up and ignore him. in fact, this will likely have the opposite effect causing frustration (the bad kind) and resentment.

you should be doing something every single day that engages him with reguard to his chastity. this can be fun exciting things that take time and effort or this can be as simple as a comment about his cage, a joke or a tease about it, grabbing his cage in the kitchen, or demanding a picture of his cage when he is out of the house. for the love of god though, you need to do at something!

2, avoid what i’ve heard people describe as “traffic jam chastity”. this is when you don’t keep him locked, teased, and denied long enough. understand that in order to get to the sweet spot of chastity you need to have a minimum amount of lock up time (plus constant teasing). this will vary by each couple but it is certain that only having him locked for a few days at a time will result in failure. i suggest at least 4 weeks at a time. ideally more! it takes time for him to build up sexual tension and frustration and to convert that into constructive emotions and actions. if you’re unlocking him too often then you will never reach the promised land and every time you unlock him, you’ll have to start over.

some keyholders are worried about being “too strict” and keeping him locked for too long but you should remember that if you’re already in a chastity relationship then he wants to be locked up! unlocking him is likely the opposite of what he wants. still, if you are worried about how long you keep him looked and denied then play this fun game: chose a number of weeks that you think is reasonable to keep him locked for. maybe like 6 weeks to start. write it down. tell him that you’ve chosen a period of time for his next chastity sentence. tell him that he has to also choose a period of time and write it down but if he chooses a time period less than what you chose then you will double the your number! (ie if you chose 6 weeks and he chose 3 weeks then he will be locked for 12 weeks! oof…) but if he chooses more than what you’ve chosen, then that will be his new sentence (ie if you chose 6 weeks and he chose 7 weeks then he will be locked for 7 weeks). this is a fun game that also let’s you know exactly how long he thinks is appropriate.

3, As the keyholder, you must set clear rules and expectation. you have to make and enforce your will. do you want nightly back rubs? make it a rule. want him to clean the house? make it a rule. want him to give you and orgasm. demand one. i’ve been giving many examples of things you could do to keep chastity spicy. pick a few and do them on your terms. he is probably starved for this kind of attention and if youre not giving it then no wonder he is acting out! chastity is a give and take and the more effort and energy you put into it, the more benefits you will receive from it.

more FAQs and trouble shooting to come.

Family Matters- Part 6

The weekend away at the cottage was certainly an eye opener. You in particular, had done things you never dreamed of and now, thoughts of serving a powerful leather Master like the Duke was invading your thoughts. Stepmother was still moving tenderly as she finalised the renovation of the attic room. Little was said about the events of a few days ago, you felt dirty and guilty about enjoying the degradation you experienced, Stepmother was also shown in a different light….her usual dominance was almost quashed as the Duke and Duchess used her as much as you. Yet, she was back to her normal self and you stood next to her as always, the familiar ball gag and panties worn….cock cage locked on with hands locked into mitts. While she was talking on the phone, your thoughts drifted to the Duke. Again, you tried to convince yourself that it was your duty and not your true kink. You liked women, especially Stepmother…..but being forced to take his cock up you and in your mouth was a feeling you couldn’t describe. Maybe it was the leather, the smell and look of it just radiated power. You were brought back to reality with the feeling of Stepmother’s painted talons idly tapping your cage, her fingers straying through the open crotch of your panties and gently rubbing the shaft of your cock. You let out a quiet moan as she looked up and smiled at you…..the phone call ended and she stood up, her fitted leather trousers gleaming in the light of the room. She gently kissed the scratches and bruises on your body…..the Duchess certainly enjoyed her brutality.

“My poor boy. Taking so much punishment and pleasure for me. The Duke and Duchess were very pleased with you, Thomas. The Duke really enjoyed you…..perhaps we can see them again in a while?”

Stepmother reached down and produced the cage key from her trousers. You looked on in confusion as she unlocked the chastity device and your cock sprung into life, tall and proud. She had already permitted the removal of your plug while your ass recovered from the weekend, but this was unexpected.

“Now, because you were so good, I’ll give you the chance to prove if you can be better.” She gripped you hard and started to milk. You let out a deep muffled grunt as her touch made you weaken immediately….with a cruel smirk, she stopped and turned away….backing that leather clad ass into you. Rubbing against your dripping cock, she challenged you to resist….but how could you? This was the first time you were unlocked in months, the chance to feel her properly, even through the leather. You knew a punishment would be dished out, but your lust took over and you thrusted your swollen, purple cock against her ass. You briefly thought of grabbing her to hold her tight, but you wouldn’t dare. Instead you humped like a filthy street mongrel and within moments you came. The orgasm wasn’t ending and you thought every drop of cum had been extracted from your heavy balls. Finally, the sensation faded and you stood, breathing heavily, drooling through the ball strapped into your mouth. She turned and her cold blue eyes were even icier….she roughly flicked your still erect cock and shook her head. Her ass was covered in your cum as well as your panties, you looked down, ashamed.

“I hope that was worth it, boy. Because i must now punish you. Opportunities like this are fleeting and you let your own selfish lust betray you. Your Father was just the same and look what happened to him.”

She pulled the panties down and let them drop to the floor, your ball gag was taken out and you were ordered to clean every inch of her leather ass. First with your tongue, then with the panties. She sneered at you while you guzzled up your mess…..she asked if you preferred your own cum, or the taste of the Duke. You blushed furiously as you licked every crevice of her leather trousers….her occasional groan of pleasure made you work harder and you finished the job with the panties. The clumsy mitts making it a harder job than it had to be…..the underwear had a fair amount of cum on it too, but Stepmother ordered you to place them in your mouth and come upstairs to the attic room. The sight of the renovated room was startling….a double bed covered in rubber sheets and matching pillows sat in the middle….even the furniture was upholstered in rubber. The smell was dizzying and you stood transfixed, on the chair next to the bed was a rubber body sack and full hood. Stepmother grabbed you and swiftly caged you again….she produced a roll of wide, glossy tape and started to wind it around your head and mouth. The mirror showed the lower half of your face engulfed in the sticky stuff……holding the taste of your cum stained panties in your mouth. Your relief from the butt plug was also now at an end, along with the electrodes Stepmother attached to your body. The wires ran to a tens machine on the bed and you knew that pain would be following your pleasure.

“Get inside the body suit. A nice present from the Duke and Duchess, don’t you think? They’re very supportive of my project with you. I’ll be sure to send them plenty of photos and videos over the next few days…..I knew you wouldn’t be able to behave, Thomas. But think of it as a new form of training, a way of developing your impressive skills so far.”

You were enclosed fully as the skintight hood was placed over your head. You tried not to panic, there was oxygen as long as you stayed calm and waited out the punishment. The odd surge of electricity stung and along with the sporadic pulsing of the plug, you would need to exercise control. Maybe this was good for you after all.

Reminding Her slave that it's just a stupid thing that exists purely for Her sadistic amusement.

Perfection demanded.