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BDSM Links And Resources

I thought I would update the list of BDSM links and resources I posted a while ago, as some links were no longer working and I had several new ones to add, including a list of books. These should be particularly helpful to those who are new to BDSM and looking to explore D/s relationships, as the best way to go about that is to first read everything you can and then read even more! Not only will this allow you to educate yourself, help keep you safe and avoid any potential mistakes or regrets, but also the more you understand something, the less intimidating it will seem.

If you have anything to add, please don’t hesitate to let me know and I will update this list, in particular if there any books that a submissive might find helpful or informative, as most of the books I have read or included are intended for Dominants.

Note: For the sake of consistency and readability, I have used capitals throughout this document and have not used lower case when referring to submissives or slaves.

Websites:

Babygirls ‘n’ Daddy Doms: Website dedicated to littles, babygirls and Daddy Doms, with a lot of useful information on the subject.

Collarme: A free BDSM dating website and community, that is probably the most popular and a better option than the commercial alternatives.

DS Arts: Academy of DS Arts, fairly self explanatory.

Evil Monk: Ambrosio’s BDSM Website, featuring many useful articles.

Fetlife: An online BDSM community that I would highly recommend and which is perhaps best described as Facebook for the kinky, allowing users to create a profile, publish photos or writing and join interest groups where you can ask questions.

Kink Academy: An online resource with many educational and instructional videos on various aspects of BDSM, although users must pay a small fee to access all of the content.

Submissive Guide: As the name suggests, this is an online resource for submissives.

The Iron Gate: A general BDSM online resource, with many aticles, essays and even stories on the subject.

Dating and Relationships:

10 Principles For Healthy 24/7 D/s And M/s (Source: sexgeek.wordpress.com)

Difference of Dynamics in BDSM (Source: the-little-kitten.tumblr.com)

Finding Your Dominant (Source: asubmissivesjourney.com)

How To Find A Partner (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 3 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

So You Want Your Boyfriend To Dominate You (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate Her (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

The Unfortunate But Common Misconceptions About DD/lg Relationships (Source: a-lolitas-life.tumblr.com)

Play:

Consent Is Mandatory And Non-Negotiable (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)

Food Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Rules and Tasks for Building Confidence (Source: themostdangerousplaything.tumblr.com)

Tools of Consent in BDSM (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Training in D/s - Why? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Training in D/s - How? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Training in D/s - Thoughts And Concerns (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Wax Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)

Safety:

Basics Of Safe, Sane And Consensual Power Exchange (Source: Molly Devon / the-iron-gate.com)

Common Sense (Source: Sean R. Powell / the-iron-gate.com)

Emotional Safety (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Offline/Online BDSM Safety Rules (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Ouch Is Not A Safe Word: Safe Words, Limits, and Scene Protocol (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Rules For Meeting Strangers (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)

Safewords and Safesigns 101 (Source: kinkology.tumblr.com)

S.S.C. VS R.A.C.K. (Source: Justin Medlin / the-iron-gate.com)

Checklists, Communication and Negotiation:

BDSM Play Partner Check List (Source: Sovereign House / the-iron-gate.com)

BDSM Scene Negotiations (Source: daddyvinnie.tumblr.com)

Can I Get That In Writing: Basics of Negotiations (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Communication (Source: submissivesupportgroup.tumblr.com)

If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Negotiation Forms (Source: Jay Wiseman, SM 101: A Realistic Introduction / greenerypress.com)

What Are Negotiations Good For? (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Sub Drop and Aftercare:

Aftercare for submissives (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Aftercare for Dominants (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Aftercare for Switches (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Emergency Self-Administered Aftercare (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Sub Drop (Source: David Williams / subshelpingsubs.tripod.com)

Sub Drop and Aftercare (Source: desires-of-a-domimant-man.tumblr.com)

Dominance and Dominants:

A Dominant is NOT… (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Advice to a Novice Dom (Source: Washington Sexuality University / the-iron-gate.com)

Advice to a Novice Dominant (Source: cherhatton.tumblr.com)

An Open Letter To A Novice Dom (Source: evilmonk.org)

Qualities of A Successful Dominant (Source: Polly Peachum / the-iron-gate.com)

Daddy Doms: They’re Not What You Think (Source: edenfantasys.com)

Domination for Nice Guys (Source: Franklin Veaux / the-iron-gate.com)

How To Spot A Non Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Learning To Be A Dom (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

The Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

What Is A Daddy Dom? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)

What Makes A Good Dominant (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)

What Should A Dominant Be (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Submission and Submissives:

10 Considerations For Inexperienced Subs (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)

A Submissive Bill of Rights (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

A Submissive’s Creed (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

A Submissive’s Ethics (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Introduction To Submission (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)

Learning to Trust Your Instincts (Source: bewildbetruebekinkybeyou.tumblr.com)

Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Some Rules For The Submissive (Source: daddylookingforhisbaby.tumblr.com)

Submissive Owner’s Manual (Source: youmadememe.tumblr.com)

Ten Tips For The Novice, Heterosexual submissive Woman (Source: Jay Wiseman / the-iron-gate.com)

Warning Signs for Submissives (Source: RC Bauer / the-iron-gate.com)

What Is A Babygirl? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)

Books:

BDSM: The Naked Truth by Dr Charley Ferrer

Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

Devil in the Details I: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - The Master, The Slave, The Power by LT Morrison

Devil in the Details II: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Mastery Refine: The Issues, The Skills by LT Morrison

Devil in the Details III: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Sustainable Structure and Traning by LT Morrison

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon Jacobs

Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves and Their Relationships by Dan and Dawn Williams

Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert Rubel

Master/slave Relations: Communications 401 by Robert Rubel

Master/slave Relations: Solutions 402, Living in Harmony by Robert Rubel

Protocols: A Variety of Views by Robert Rubel

Real Service by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Phillp Miller and Molly Devon

SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

The Control Book by Peter Masters

The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren

The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino

This Curious Human Phenomenon: An Exploration of Some Uncommonly Explored Aspects of BDSM by Peter Masters

Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook by Christina Parker

My night with a DOMINATRIX

Arrival

I sat down with this absolute indomitable woman, She had an open warm smile and stunning demeanour, manging to make me feel calm and comfortable while also making me feel exactly how I wanted to feel. Like something less.

We discussed the session a 4 hour session, what how when and what to say if I was having too much.

I had been caged at her request 2 days before. At the end of the discussion I handed Mistress G 2 envelopes one contained the cash the other a sealed envelope containing the keys to my cage (yes all 3 keys). She left the key envelope on the table saying “won’t be needing these”. I was sent off to have a shower with a 5 min time limit and was told to be kneeling and naked after the shower.

Session start

Apparently I took 5 min and 26 seconds to get in position. This gained me a punishment I would receive at the end of the session.

When I was allowed to raise my head to see Mistress G she wasn’t in the dress that she was in before, red calf high leather boots, black leather pants, a black leather corset with red trimming and red laces.

Looking down at me I could see the power in her eyes boring into me. To say I was scared is an understatement.

A simple movement of her foot between my legs got me to flinch, while laughing at my flinch and patting my head “is the poor boy scared of my foot did you think I was going to hurt you already” I meekly nodded and dropped my head her finger lifting my head to look into her eyes she handed me a collar plain purple collar with 4 D rings I put it on and she finished me off with a click of a lock, “don’t worry they will be plenty of locks clicking on you today” leash attached and led to the first scenario.

Spanking bench

A simple padded bench with more straps than I could count, wrists, elbows, waist, thighs, ankles and a latch for the leash to clip too, “are you noisy boy?” “no Mistress G” “let’s see, one peep and you’re gaged” with a nod hearing her walk around me to my very exposed ass and balls, the way I was strapped spread my ass open and my balls and caged cock hanging down, a slap on my ass a breath in no noise though I was proud until she started really warming me up, by the time she walked around to my face again, a bright red face, “almost as red as your ass, now that you are warmed up we can start, from now no noise” she must have seen the surprise in my eyes as she walked away laughing.

An explosion of pain spread through me starting at my ass running up my back into my shoulders into my face and out of my mouth “ahhhhh” she immediately stopped came around “open” I opened my mouth she place the cane that had just destroyed my composure “hold that”

“Screaming bitches suck cock, are you a screaming bitch?” shaking my head no “but you screamed and you are strapped down with your ass in the air and a cage on your dick. That makes you a bitch”

“Open your mouth” I gagged as the giant penis gag was shoved in my mouth again a click locked.

She went on for 10 min 5 strokes a minute some hard some soft some fast some slow each one saying nice and peaceful so quiet and peaceful. Walking around to check on me I was a dazed lump, drooling massively eyes glazed. I was in heaven.

I spent the next 45 min on that bench getting beaten I was flogged, I was cropped, I was caned, I was slapped there wasn’t a part of my body that wasn’t red and striped.

Being unlocked I was released from the gag kneeling again and getting a bottle of water while Mistress G coated my back with cream. (Aftercare doesn’t always need to happen at the end).

Ball Torture

Led to a St Andrews cross locked in arms up and ankles locked in. No gag this time. Feeling Mistress G fussing over my balls getting my cock straining in the cage, a tap from her manicured finger nail “whys it straining, are you getting excited bitch” “yes Mistress” feeling her again running a finger up the cage, seeing her rise up and running her pre-cum filled finger running around my lips, “lick you lips for me” and did I lick my lips, I licked them clean, “you’ll get more later bitch”. I felt a light tug on my balls.

I had a parachute connected to my balls at this point, and a small weight maybe 200g, Mistress walked away and came back with a basket of weights, she made a big show of selecting the weights and laying them just out of my sight, before I knew it I had 2 kg of weight hanging off my somewhat stretched balls, this continued Mistress adding a weight feeling my balls filling my lips with my mess, adding weight feeling my balls filling my lips with my mess. Then I felt it happening quite slowly, Mistress looking me in the eyes while I felt the weight slowly lifting then with her hand on my chin holding my head in place her body against mine, I felt then my balls stretch as she let the weights go my eyes watering as she was asking my all sort of humiliating questions. I don’t remember them as I could just feel my balls getting longer and longer as the 8kg of weight was swinging back and forward.

Mistress slapped my face and walked away from me, watching her perfect ass moving away as my balls were getting stretched.

Ball torture part 2

With the weights off and a little care to my balls Mistress brought out the penis gag again and locked it in place.

Mistress G moved behind me, the next thing I knew I was slumped In the cuffs holding my wrist, tears rolling down my face and a laughing Mistress G behind me. I had received a kick straight to my tender balls it felt like they were in my throat. 10 seconds later I was in the same position, Mistress G whispering in my ear “nod if you are ok” I nodded “do you want more” I nodded “beg” trying to speak around a hard plastic cock in your mouth is not an easy task, I had drool running down my face down my chest, I was a mess to say the least. Mistress G kicked me a few more times I’m not sure how many, but she made sure I begged for every single one.

Relax

Because Mistress G is a professional and she really does care for the welfare of her client’s, part of the fee involves lunch. I got 2 choices of lunch, fruit salad and finger snacks, or a charcuterie board, drinks were fresh fruit juices. And I got 2 choices of how the lunch would be served either, as a submissive or as vanilla, both would involve discussions with Mistress G of how things were going.

Because there was no way I wanted to miss out on anything, and as would be expected I chose the fruit salad as a submissive. This involved me at Mistress G’s feet hands cuffed behind my back eating out of a bowl on the floor. Mistress G was phenomenal checking my emotional and physical state in a caring way but also throwing in insults and snide comments.

Part 2 to follow

One of my favorite things about boys is that it’s so very easy to arouse them. Just run a hand a little too far up his leg, back a little too far into him in line at the grocery store, nonchalantly give him a little peek of that lingerie, and he’s toast. Boys are so cute!