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Be Prepared for Chastity

For any male who thinks that they will be prepared for what happens when they consent to entering into a chastity agreement with their Goddess or partner, think again. Nothing you will do, have done, will think or imagine can prepare you for what will unfold.

So am i saying to steer clear of that momentous decision? Absolutely not!

The moment your Mistress takes ownership of your cock is exciting but nothing like the onset of the deeper feeling of being owned and denied by The Woman who chose to be your Owner with your consent. If you haven’t already looked upon Her as your Goddess you will rapidly do so by some irresistible force that binds you to Her.

You will very quickly want to do everything in your power to please Her and will go to extraordinary lengths to do so. Very soon you will worship the ground she walks on and hanker for every titbit of attention and affection that She will deign to throw your way. Just remember that whilst your Lady may appreciate this outpouring of adoration She must be allowed space to breathe and to choose when you are part of Her intentions. This is the lot of the male in chastity.

You are in this cage for a reason. It is the physical stamp that signifies that your sexual wants and needs have become secondary, nay inconsequential, so get used to it. The needs of the submissive male are outweighed by the greater power of the Female Authority who now demands and deserves all the pleasure, fulfillment, orgasms or anything else She desires. Eventually the chaste male will begin to realize that Her pleasure is your pleasure and therefore when given selflessly your efforts to please Her have their own reward.

You will find as The Lady On Top grows in confidence She will surprise you with Her demeanour and Her inventiveness though as She is now driving this relationship your place is to now follow and serve, not direct, so embrace your journey whatever it may bring. You will discover parts of your body and mind you never believed possible as together you tap this rich vein of life. In your chaste state one of your driving goals will become not to disappoint The Lady and all you have achieved under Her guidance.

When you do fail in any way you must be prepared to go through torture and pain as penance; in fact you will crave it to prove your worthiness as you will for any touch or caress, whip, cane and paddle strike, rejoicing when you have colouring or marks to display proving your worth. At the very least each punishment will likely fit the crime so you should endure these with a view to making you a better submissive.

In the same way your humiliation and embarrassment will reinforce your inferior status in your mind and make the transition to Owned property more complete. Any degradation you suffer at the hands of the Higher Female Power before you will give you such a thrill just to be in her presence. 

Remember there is no greater calling than to be able to serve The Goddess of your dreams, so given the chance take it with both hands gladly behind your back.

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troubleshooting your chastity lifestyle - part 1/2

i will often get messages from followers about problems that they are having in their chastity relationship. lets start the new year by trying to fix some of these problems. instead of responding to everyone individually ill be spending the next few posts answering some of the common problems people are having.

many keyholders have expressed frustration that they aren’t quite getting the submission and/or the loving attentive and affection husband that is promised by chastity. or they are getting it for a little while and then it goes away. i’ve noticed some common mistakes that people are making…

1, avoid the “lock it and leave it” mistake. chastity is NOT something that can be passive! keyholders must play an active part in the game being played. the surest way to fail to achieve all the benefits of chastity is to just lock your partner up and ignore him. in fact, this will likely have the opposite effect causing frustration (the bad kind) and resentment.

you should be doing something every single day that engages him with reguard to his chastity. this can be fun exciting things that take time and effort or this can be as simple as a comment about his cage, a joke or a tease about it, grabbing his cage in the kitchen, or demanding a picture of his cage when he is out of the house. for the love of god though, you need to do at something!

2, avoid what i’ve heard people describe as “traffic jam chastity”. this is when you don’t keep him locked, teased, and denied long enough. understand that in order to get to the sweet spot of chastity you need to have a minimum amount of lock up time (plus constant teasing). this will vary by each couple but it is certain that only having him locked for a few days at a time will result in failure. i suggest at least 4 weeks at a time. ideally more! it takes time for him to build up sexual tension and frustration and to convert that into constructive emotions and actions. if you’re unlocking him too often then you will never reach the promised land and every time you unlock him, you’ll have to start over.

some keyholders are worried about being “too strict” and keeping him locked for too long but you should remember that if you’re already in a chastity relationship then he wants to be locked up! unlocking him is likely the opposite of what he wants. still, if you are worried about how long you keep him looked and denied then play this fun game: chose a number of weeks that you think is reasonable to keep him locked for. maybe like 6 weeks to start. write it down. tell him that you’ve chosen a period of time for his next chastity sentence. tell him that he has to also choose a period of time and write it down but if he chooses a time period less than what you chose then you will double the your number! (ie if you chose 6 weeks and he chose 3 weeks then he will be locked for 12 weeks! oof…) but if he chooses more than what you’ve chosen, then that will be his new sentence (ie if you chose 6 weeks and he chose 7 weeks then he will be locked for 7 weeks). this is a fun game that also let’s you know exactly how long he thinks is appropriate.

3, As the keyholder, you must set clear rules and expectation. you have to make and enforce your will. do you want nightly back rubs? make it a rule. want him to clean the house? make it a rule. want him to give you and orgasm. demand one. i’ve been giving many examples of things you could do to keep chastity spicy. pick a few and do them on your terms. he is probably starved for this kind of attention and if youre not giving it then no wonder he is acting out! chastity is a give and take and the more effort and energy you put into it, the more benefits you will receive from it.

more FAQs and trouble shooting to come.

I’m so hungry for a shy boy in bed… I want to tie his hands to my bed posts, strip him off his pants and see him turn crimson red in the face when I look at his body like it’s the most delicious meal I’ve ever seen. I want him to moan and squirm when I touch his hard cock the first time… begging me to stop but his body language will tell me otherwise.. slight thrust against my palm and later in my mouth. I want him to whimper and sigh, be noisy and desperate. I’m hungry for the look on his face when I slide his throbbing cock inside my pussy and feel him all the way in. When he tries to hide his face or bites his lips to muffle the moans I just part his lips with two fingers and force his mouth open, make him unable to suppress all the sweet sounds he makes while I ride him. What I want is a boy stripped off all the worries and thoughts that make him think he has to act cool. Act ‘manly’. I want him to lose a fight against boundaries and give in to the pleasure I cause. And I want to hear him cry my name as he cums.