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Ejaculation

There are some very interesting ways to spice up a FLR, especially when the relationship has become predictable. The beautiful thing about a FLR, is that it never has to become predictable for very long, because the very nature of power exchange, means things can change at any time. Since power exchange, is affecting both partners at very sensitive levels it can be a lot of fun to explore it deeper, to really figure out how to reach deeper into it.

Keeping a submissive, locked up, teased and denied often, will keep him submissive. However, a domme should not forget that subspace is exactly where he wants to be. It’s the best place for him to be in to serve, however, over time, he can get used to subspace, and her power keeping him horny begins to waver a little bit, because it’s what he wants. Being horny becomes his normal state of being.

This can be problematic, because he forgets what it’s like to cum, and his body no longer has the urgent need to ejaculate. Without that need to ejaculate, he may still be subservient, but his desire to push limits, will have waned, and his subservience may have become routine, or not as enthusiastic. This is normal, and often tease and denial will perk him back up, among other things.

There is a way to bring back that desperation however, to turn him back into that very desperate submissive he once was when you were discovering the joys of chastity together. In those days where his submission was half motivated to submit, and half motivated to get the reward of ejaculation. The days where the passion was at its highest peak, and the chivalry was at its highest level.

It requires applying a little bit of reverse psychology, and this can be extremely fun for the domme as well as the submissive. You see, once he has reached that plateau of hornyness, he’s no longer going to want to ejaculate, he’s going to prefer saying denied. Ejaculation to him now, is a chore.

Ejaculation means having to go through subdrop for the next 12 hours or more. He doesn’t want to leave subspace, and he doesn’t want to experience subdrop, it makes him feel down, as if he came down from a high, almost depressed even. He loses all desire to submit, and he feels empty, unfulfilled. Ejaculation is almost like a punishment for him at this point.

Which is exactly why ejaculation has become the perfect way to bring him right back into deeper submission. A submissive should be taught to remain submissive, even if they don’t feel submissive, after ejaculation. This is very difficult for a submissive to do, especially in the early days. One primary method for helping him overcome this, is to have him consume his own cum afterward.

Making him consume his own cum, means the first thing he must do, after ejaculation is perform a submissive act. A submissive act that he really doesn’t want to perform. This keeps him in the submissive mindset, even when he’s really not feeling it. Proper aftercare should then be taken after he has done this. He still wants to feel safe, and cared for.

Once he has learned to be submissive even after ejaculation, the real fun can begin after he’s used to being in the horny plateau, which can take months. After months or years of infrequent, or no full ejaculations, the reverse psychology of ejaculating him can work wonders.

Bringing ejaculation back to the forefront of the relationship can take a bit of adjusting to, but its easier if he’s been trained to be submissive afterward. Over a period of a couple weeks, to a month, a domme can increase the frequency of how often he gets to ejaculate. Perhaps in the first week, it’s two times. Increasing it up to maybe twice a day by the end of the month.

He’s not going to be in subspace for an entire month almost, but remember, that’s not up to him! What’s happening, is his body is once again getting used to ejaculating frequently, and so naturally he begins to crave that, while at the same time, craving subspace even more. He is completely at the mercy of a domme at this point.

When the times comes to be locked back up in chastity, he’s going to once again, have a very difficult time adjusting to the chaste life, and his subservience is going to drastically soar back to begging for attention, and begging to service her with his enthusiastic tongue, while also begging for ejaculation. It’s quite the conundrum for him, and its a delicious amount of power for her. She can have so much fun playing with this, and come up with creative ideas along the way.

A female led relationship never has to get boring, or dull, or routine. A little reverse psychology can go a long way! Ejaculation becomes a doubled edged sword, his best friend, yet his greatest enemy, his domme is in total control of his sexuality and he’s forever left guessing as to what might happen next!

Thank you for reading!  If you’d like to learn more about female led relationships, check out my Practical FLR book series.

Amazing that a thing can feel unfair and completely right at the same time.

So clearly I have a bit if a reputation as being a hard spanker.  Much of it is personal preference, but most of it is the fact that I like to film realistic videos.  An on camera spanking, which is depicting an 18-24 year old girl, getting punished, needs to be hard.  The goal has to be tears and her bottom needs to be marked and sore for several days. 

While I have filmed several mouth soaping scenes over the years, I have never really tried to apply a mouth soaping in a severe manner.  So what are the elements that make a mouth soaping “severe”.  Unfortunately for Miss Syrena, she was the girl who found out exactly how severe a mouth soaping can be.  It began with a low stroke of the belt that landed on her thighs and not on her bottom.  Her response was “God Dammit”, followed by “that hit my fucking thighs”.  That was all I needed to hear in order for a “severe” mouth soaping to take place.  I marched her into the bathroom, grabbed a bar of the soap from the sink, and required her stand with her mouth open while I lathered it up.  For a typical mouth soaping, I would simply put the bar in a young lady’s mouth and move it around a bit, making a couple of such trips with the bar.  But Miss Syrena was not that lucky.  With each trip of the bar, I targeted a different part of her mouth. 

For the 1st trip into her mouth with the soap, the goal was to just introduce the bad taste, and I made a quick trip covering the entire area.  For the next trip into her mouth, the goal was to cover the roof of her mouth as much as possible.  With each trip, and as the water warmed up, the bar of soap began to create much more lather, allowing me to really get to work.  For her next round, I covered what I think to be a very important part of a severe mouth soaping, and that is the teeth.  I focused on grinding the soap deep into her teeth, so slivers of soap stayed behind.  While I will often pull a bar of soap against a young lady’s front teeth as I pull it out, for Syrena, I grinded the soap deep into the teeth in all areas of the mouth.  I made sure that there was not a spot, in between any two teeth that did not have chunks of soap stuck between them.  Once her mouth and her teeth were properly coated with soap, it was time to focus on her tongue.  As the tongue is responsible for most of the taste in a mouth, I felt it was important that it received its own session with the soap.  She was required to stick her tongue far outside of her mouth, so I could see well enough to rub the soap over 100% of it.  But for a severe mouth soaping, only covering the top is not enough to get the job done, so the bottom side of her tongue also got a full round with the bar.

Once there was no spot in her mouth that did not have complete and total coverage with the soap, she was required to hold it in place, so I could get back to spanking her bare bottom.  I lifted up her PJ’s and got to work.  Part way into the spanking, I could tell she was having difficulty, as she was beginning to choke on the soap.  I allowed her to remove the bar of soap, and to spit a single time, in which time I bent her back over and got back to work.  When her spanking was complete, I moved her back to the sink, but before I told her to do anything, she spit out more soap, without being told to do so.  While her punishment was complete at that point, it was her inability to follow directions that led to her spanking in the 1st place, so I had no choice, but to start again.  With her mouth still foaming from the previous mouth soaping, I literally started the entire process over again.  1st the entire mouth, then the top of the mouth, then the teeth, and both sides of the tongue again…before it was all said and done the bar of soap made 9 separate trips into her mouth.  It all ended with several minutes of standing with the bar in place before she was finally allowed to spit and rinse. 

It is certainly the most severe mouth soaping I have ever administered and it was highly effective.  When the entire scene was over she told me that she would take a wooden paddle on her bare bottom, any day, over the mouth soaping such as she just received.

The entire HD version of this scene went online last Friday in the member’s area of  RealspankingsInstitute.com