Dangerousangleofadream - Femdom

@saphrioum

From the amazing and powerful Mistress Rane Lane. She's been like a guide and mentor to me over the years.

"How submission will make a man more attractive.

I will try to explain what I mean by submission making a man more attractive to women. A lot of people in BDSM think that FLR will produce a man who is weak. They fear he'll sound like the Dickens character, Uriah Heep. (not the rock band.) This is not so. As I mentioned, Butler is no longer pretty, or strong, or rich, but women love him.

Some of his attractiveness is that he has been under my heel for over 17 years. All men have a tendency to say the wrong thing, miss a social cue, or be unintentionally rude. Butler had good social skills when I met him but he has been through the fire. I have refined him. He moves through the female world now much more like an older wiser diplomat. Women are charmed by him.

I started thinking about what he has that interests women. For one thing he listens to them. He will turn to a woman, look her in the eye, and completely give her his attention. That is rare. He doesn't interrupt except to ask a question to deepen his understanding of what she is telling him. He is genuinely interested. This makes him utterly disarming. Women tell him secrets.

Also, they see how he treats me. He is not obsequious, but he is always aware of me. If the wind starts blowing, he quietly produces a shawl. If my drink is getting low, a new one finds its way into my hand. Women notice these small gallantries. Also, he knows me. He remembers little things like how I like my coffee, how to order a meal for me if I'm late, etc. He pays attention.

Finally, women hear how he talks about me and they see how he looks at me. When he gazes at me, women see that he completely loves me. A lot of women want to be known and heard and looked at like Butler looks at me. Consequently, women like him.

FLR when it's done correctly makes a man better and more attractive. If I fall off of a cliff, Butler will have a lot of women knocking on his door to comfort him.

Besides, I don't really believe in the concept of beta and alpha males. Butler would be an alpha male in a wilderness survival setting but a complete beta in a video game. Setting often establishes dominance.

Nevertheless, to the extent the beta and alpha males exist, it is clear that while in the vanilla world alphas might enjoy sex with more women, betas enjoy more sex with the same woman. In the final tally underestimated betas often find themselves in more sexual circumstances than the misunderstood alphas. Butler lives in an erotic atmosphere that we have created for him as my servant. It is filled with sexual tension and kink. He lives in the world he wanted. How many alphas end up like that, especially in their latter years?

Submissive male life is wonderful."