There’s Just Something So Satisfying About Fingering A Boy For The First Time. It’s The Slow Practice

Boys will see a girl with biceps and back muscles and be like… hii daddy *twirls hair*

Dangerous smile

I sat down across from my girlfriend and started looking through the menu as we settled into the restaurant. I fidgeted on my recently-spanked bottom as the waitress came and asked for our drink orders, and I requested water while my girlfriend got a glass of wine. I looked at the menu again and she reached across the table and took the menu from me. 

She smiled at me, and I knew that wasn’t good for me.

“You know I don’t like it when you try to be something you’re not,” she said. “You swaggered in here like you were owned the place, when I know the truth. Your bottom is still very red from this morning’s spanking, you were crying in the corner, naked, only 30 minutes ago, and you’re locked in chastity. You don’t own anything - your girlfriend owns you.”

I blushed and dropped my gaze. “Yes, Ma’am.”

“Good boy. Here’s how you’ll be punished for pretending. When the waitress returns, you will apologize to her for looking at her legs and acting arrogant. Then you will explain that your girlfriend is not going to let you eat lunch to punish you for your arrogance and if she would like to add anything to your punishment, it’s up to her. When she leaves to put in my order, you will kiss my feet under the table and thank me, then you will return to your seat with your hands on the table in plain sight. You will not speak again unless I ask you something or if the waitress does - she’s female and therefore your superior. When we leave, we are going straight home and you’ll be spanked again on your naked bottom. Then I will leave you tied up all night.”

Tears started to form in my eyes. This was so humiliating!

“The next time you try to act like a big man, remember how embarrassed you are right now,” she said. “And remember your true place, under female control.”

Ejaculation

There are some very interesting ways to spice up a FLR, especially when the relationship has become predictable. The beautiful thing about a FLR, is that it never has to become predictable for very long, because the very nature of power exchange, means things can change at any time. Since power exchange, is affecting both partners at very sensitive levels it can be a lot of fun to explore it deeper, to really figure out how to reach deeper into it.

Keeping a submissive, locked up, teased and denied often, will keep him submissive. However, a domme should not forget that subspace is exactly where he wants to be. It’s the best place for him to be in to serve, however, over time, he can get used to subspace, and her power keeping him horny begins to waver a little bit, because it’s what he wants. Being horny becomes his normal state of being.

This can be problematic, because he forgets what it’s like to cum, and his body no longer has the urgent need to ejaculate. Without that need to ejaculate, he may still be subservient, but his desire to push limits, will have waned, and his subservience may have become routine, or not as enthusiastic. This is normal, and often tease and denial will perk him back up, among other things.

There is a way to bring back that desperation however, to turn him back into that very desperate submissive he once was when you were discovering the joys of chastity together. In those days where his submission was half motivated to submit, and half motivated to get the reward of ejaculation. The days where the passion was at its highest peak, and the chivalry was at its highest level.

It requires applying a little bit of reverse psychology, and this can be extremely fun for the domme as well as the submissive. You see, once he has reached that plateau of hornyness, he’s no longer going to want to ejaculate, he’s going to prefer saying denied. Ejaculation to him now, is a chore.

Ejaculation means having to go through subdrop for the next 12 hours or more. He doesn’t want to leave subspace, and he doesn’t want to experience subdrop, it makes him feel down, as if he came down from a high, almost depressed even. He loses all desire to submit, and he feels empty, unfulfilled. Ejaculation is almost like a punishment for him at this point.

Which is exactly why ejaculation has become the perfect way to bring him right back into deeper submission. A submissive should be taught to remain submissive, even if they don’t feel submissive, after ejaculation. This is very difficult for a submissive to do, especially in the early days. One primary method for helping him overcome this, is to have him consume his own cum afterward.

Making him consume his own cum, means the first thing he must do, after ejaculation is perform a submissive act. A submissive act that he really doesn’t want to perform. This keeps him in the submissive mindset, even when he’s really not feeling it. Proper aftercare should then be taken after he has done this. He still wants to feel safe, and cared for.

Once he has learned to be submissive even after ejaculation, the real fun can begin after he’s used to being in the horny plateau, which can take months. After months or years of infrequent, or no full ejaculations, the reverse psychology of ejaculating him can work wonders.

Bringing ejaculation back to the forefront of the relationship can take a bit of adjusting to, but its easier if he’s been trained to be submissive afterward. Over a period of a couple weeks, to a month, a domme can increase the frequency of how often he gets to ejaculate. Perhaps in the first week, it’s two times. Increasing it up to maybe twice a day by the end of the month.

He’s not going to be in subspace for an entire month almost, but remember, that’s not up to him! What’s happening, is his body is once again getting used to ejaculating frequently, and so naturally he begins to crave that, while at the same time, craving subspace even more. He is completely at the mercy of a domme at this point.

When the times comes to be locked back up in chastity, he’s going to once again, have a very difficult time adjusting to the chaste life, and his subservience is going to drastically soar back to begging for attention, and begging to service her with his enthusiastic tongue, while also begging for ejaculation. It’s quite the conundrum for him, and its a delicious amount of power for her. She can have so much fun playing with this, and come up with creative ideas along the way.

A female led relationship never has to get boring, or dull, or routine. A little reverse psychology can go a long way! Ejaculation becomes a doubled edged sword, his best friend, yet his greatest enemy, his domme is in total control of his sexuality and he’s forever left guessing as to what might happen next!

Thank you for reading!  If you’d like to learn more about female led relationships, check out my Practical FLR book series.

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