@tom--allen Good Summary Here. ❤️🔒

Perfectly stated!!!

It may start out as curiosity or a kinky little game for him. He may even buy a cage for the two of you to try. The beauty is in doing so, he cannot comprehend the Pandora’s box he is unleashing upon himself. Ladies, he is literally giving you the keys to the greatest gift ever; his absolute devotion to you.

You will have to wait until the novelty wears off, perhaps a month or two, but it’s well worth the wait. You will know it’s your time to act once you notice he is no longer as interested in playing with chastity, or putting on his cage unprompted. When they day comes, plan a night out. Dress in your sexiest outfit and before leaving the house, hand him the cage and firmly tell him to put it on while you watch. Once he does so, have him hand you the key and tell him “this key is now mine,” and never give it back to him.

Go out for the night and enjoy the evening together. When you get home, tease and edge his cock, have him lick and finger you to an amazing orgasm, and thank him for a wonderful evening. When he asks about his own orgasm, tell him he will not be cumming for a while. He is going to be confused and frustrated, so give him love and assure him that he is not in trouble or being punished. Simply explain you have been reexamining chastity in your relationship, and have decided to take ownership of his cock and sexuality moving forward. **Ideally, you should already have a signed chastity contract from when you first decided to explore chastity play. This would be a good time to tell him you have simply decided to enforce the contract permanently. (If you do not have one, you need one.) 

At the end of your evening, basque in the afterglow of your orgasm and your victory. Enjoy the joy and comfort of his throbbing cage gently patting your ass as you fall to sleep.

Obedience school.

Oh dear. You really did disgrace yourself with the girls. But they’ll keep your grubby perversion a secret…..at a price.

You like watching him fuck me don’t you Babe - are you going to lick my dirty pussy when he’s done? 🤤

Surprised he didn’t break the equipment!

I believe her!

Maintenance Spankings

As part of the corporal punishment plan I have created in our wife-led marriage, maintenance spankings have become a weekly event.

They will happen spur of the moment, without forewarning and never scheduled, to keep him guessing when they will occur. This also allows me to choose when they will happen, as ensuring that I'm in the right frame of mind, (never mad but feeling sadistic) is important for my enjoyment.

He surrenders himself to accept pain and discomfort at my will, and for me, the surrender is just as important as the spanking itself.

I make him fetch the spanking implements so that he is actively collaborating in his own punishment, a highly submissive act. I have a very strict rule that he is to never, ever, touch with his own hands any equipment used for punishment. I keep them locked away in a duffel bag unless they are being used on him. When he fetches the implements, he carries this bag by the handles with his teeth while his hands remain clasped behind his back.

Bending over, putting himself across my lap to be spanked is another highly submissive act. By doing so, he is already ceding most of his power to me. Although far from severe, the leather paddle I use induces a nasty sting that is quite unpleasant.

I never swing any punishment implement without the intent of causing pain. We don't do funishments anymore, as I worry mixing pleasure and pain in spankings could turn him into a pain slut. I never want that to happen as I really love using spankings as a punishment and it would ruin it. Our discipline sessions never include warm up strokes for the same reason.

By remaining in position over my knee, he is accepting that the punishment and pain will continue, again, a highly submissive act. The spanking ends only when I decide, and that is usually when I feel he has reached contrition and total submission, often in tears.

Aftercare is then lovingly applied by putting him to my breast to suckle me, as we find that dry adult nursing is a great way for us to bond.

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There are various benefits to maintenance spankings in our Wife-led marriage. They include:

1. First and foremost, they create and maintain the inequality that our dynamic is based on, at fairly regular intervals, constantly reminding us of our proper places and roles in the relationship. They leave him feeling completely submissive, ceding all his power to me, and giving me the absolute authority to rule over him. In essence, a total power exchange.

2. It ensures that I will harbor no resentment against him for any micro-aggressions he may have committed recently. He may have shown slight disrespect, disobeyed me, forgotten to complete a task or ritual, or lacked proper submission at some point throughout the week. If he has done something to disappoint me, it ensures he is properly punished for it, allowing closure in the matter and my total forgiveness. No need to give him the silent treatment because I'm mad at him anymore.

3. It acts as an emotional release. Most males aren't very good at expressing their emotions, and being spanked to tears can be an excellent catalyst for helping him to release any tension or stress that may have built up, before they become toxic in nature. He seems to be happiest and at peace with himself after a recent spanking and he is so respectful to me.

4. It prevents more severe punishment. By giving him a milder taste of the pain he would endure from the strap or the cane, it reminds him that he needs to behave himself, sparing him from such drastic corrections being needed. A little spanking goes a long way to keep him obedient.