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While separating relationships into strictly sexual, platonic, or romantic or some combination of those is fine for understanding the aromantic and asexual spectrum at a basic level, we must eventually understand that some relationships will never fit into these categories and often queer relationships are more complex than that, and our definition of queer relationships must include abstract relationships. As a community based on gender anarchy, debasing gender roles, and freedom to love how we will, we have to move away from immediately defining relationships.

I wonder what Mae got up to this Harfest 🎃🍂

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I have to form my thoughts more coherently but with the discussions i’ve seen on Metaphorical vs Literal physical therianthropy / general nonhumanity, I have always thought it extended to more than just physical identities. But I don’t think it’s talked about enough nor acknowledged nor understood at all. I have a theory that a lot of therians actually identify in a more symbolic or metaphorical way,, whether that is psychological or spiritual or physical or something else, they don’t all identify as a 100% Real, Literal animal, though that doesn’t mean they don’t identify as an animal at all. Identifying symbolically is still identifying, but the experiences between that and more literal identity are different, and I think the distinction is important.

I think it’s the main source of a lot of identity discourse in the community, because we are running on two different types of therianthropy. Neither are wrong, neither are invalid, and neither are “less animal” or have less depth than the other, but there is this incongruence between discussions because of it.

I hope this makes sense, and I hope my observations don’t come off as rude (i’m scared people will misinterpret my words). But I’ve thought about this since forever, and I really think we need to start considering it as a possibility, because then maybe (heavy emphasis on the maybe) this identity will be more understood, and you can only hope for less infighting…

iirc, the definition of therianthropy has never really excluded more metaphorical/symbolic IDs either, it only makes sense that a large portion of the community falls under it. You only have to identify as an ‘animal’, not just a Real, Literal, Scientifically accurate animal (would exclude theriomythics and fictotherians anyways)

-> (additional note: I want to make it clear that I’m not saying i’m excluded from any this either, my dog theriotype comes from grief after all, to deny its existence as partially symbolic/metaphorical would be to deny myself. please don’t interpret this as some “I’m not like other therians” tangent)

for the longest time, I thought friends with benefits meant people who are friends for like some business exchange or to rely on each other financially/reputationally. IT TURNS OUT it meant something completely different.

SO THAT MEANS I'VE BEEN SAYING "Oh so in this story, you're saying the characters got a friends with benefits thing going on" AND NO ONE CORRECTED ME-

jsyk, most people aren’t dickwads about therian gear irl.

whenever i do quads, it’s public quads becuase i don’t have a backyard, i live in an apartment complex.

i have had in depth conversations with people who reacted positively to seeing me do quads.

i have talked at length with unhoused people in full therian gear (using only my AAC no less)

i literally just waved and said hi (with gestures, bc i can’t talk) to some landscapers who were cleaning up the grass on the field i usually do quads at! they asked me how i was doing and i nodded and smiled.

it’s literally only losers on social media who are gonna shit on you. i have gotten one, irl negative reaction to someone seeing me do quads in full gear. which was immediately shut down when i smiled and waved.

in general, real life people don’t care how you’re dressed, or that you’re doing a weird sport. they care that you are kind and pleasant to them.

if they do care, being out in public and being face to face (and not hiding behind a screen) with you is gonna greatly change how they interact with you.

do whatever you want forever. no one is gonna stop you. i love you.

Aromantic Experiences Bingo (blank card)

(If you're confused about the "romantic relationships are just being best friends + more emotional/ physical intimacy" (this question got asked a lot), I tried to explain this here: https://www.tumblr.com/sternenschaukler/763340936371683328/why-isnt-a-romantic-relationship-just-being-best )

bro relatable

never learn quads i want to walk on all fours everywhere now