Cvt2dvm - CVT To DVM

You sacrifice some other area or combine areas. You integrate your social life into working out or eating, or, if you're a fool, into your work life.

how the hell do people work full time AND work out. and also eat. i feel like a dvd player

Как котенку построили дом (1963)

Ohhh how lovely it is to find something gentle kind and soft and mushy and absolutely adoring.

Having grown up next to a very real sundown town, and having dealt with these people for 20+ years as a result of it, after about age 12 or 13, most people who can be "saved" from that ideology start saving themselves because they recognize it's fucked. The ones who can't be saved start justifying and rationalizing it, first in their own heads, then outloud to others. Having watched Klan marches while just trying to go to the dentist, having been spat on for being a "race traitor" having had to physically defend friends from attempted hate crimes, having had to help put out a burning cross on a friend's yard, fuck the mentality that we have to coddle them. The ones who need coddling still hold those same ideologies. The ones who have truly reformed don't ask for forgiveness, just to be allowed to fight back alongside us, and they shut the fuck up, keep their heads down, and sure as shit don't glorify their old ideology or try to dismiss it as "haha I was so quirky when I had that little Nazi phase" they are genuinely remorseful, accept how bad the shit they did was, don't play it off, and work their asses off to dismantle the groups they were in.

There is something revealing here and in other notes of that post. I'm trying to put my finger on it...it's as if there is an acceptance that White Supremacy, while wrong, is a privilege people are allowed to indulge in, and so other people need to endlessly be patient and rehabilitate them. Like it's a White Right, like of course they get to explore their evil legacy a bit, in order to discover it's wrong. And/or that fascism/white supremacy/ideological racism is something anyone could fall "victim" to if they were exposed to the same "magical" radicalization material, and not that people who "fall into" hate groups already have a fundamental world view that is precedent...they start from a place where the natural logical progression is an all powerful ethno-state.

It's also revealing that a hypothetical reformed neo-nazi must needs constant validation and forgiveness lest they fall back. Presumably someone who has exited a hate group like this, truly reformed, would not seek validation, they would have the wherewithal. They would self-actualize, and understand why. But it's revealing isn't, that they can forgive a "nazi phase" because the risk is that they could return to a "nazi phase"...so what are these people imagining they are forgiving? They aren't imagining forgiveness, they are imagining some sort of mutual sycophantic theater where politics is just...the posts you make on the internet I guess. Idk, lots to think of here. I don't think these people have met real creeps, the kind that make your skin prickle. I don't think these people have engaged at any level what neo-nazi material looks like.

Too many people are focused on how others perceive them while simultaneously existing with zero internal locus of control. You can romanticize and try to find the good in all the bad you face, or you can buckle up, sit down, and do the work you need to do in order to change or adapt your situation for a better tomorrow.

Let this be the point where you say enough is enough, take accountability and responsibility for your healing and future, and move forward to a better self. Start your exit strategy, learn to advocate for yourself, whatever it is you need to do. It's not the universe. It's not God/Goddess. It's in your hands. Let go of the things you can't control. Start working on the things you can.

unsung benefit i think a lot of ppl are sleeping on with using the public library is that i think its a great replacement for the dopamine hit some ppl get from online shopping. it kind of fills that niche of reserving something that you then get to anticipate the arrival of and enjoy when it arrives, but without like, the waste and the money.

Palm sunday is a great holiday, craftwise

I'm all for 4B, and will be joining Y'all if BoyToy and I split, but I'm also not seeing myself joining yall as anything more than an ally and supporter of what 4B is doing any time soon.

Are you 4b? Considering it? Not interested? (4b is Not dating men, marrying them, or having children? And when did you start?

Yes, my whole life naturally

Yes, a while ago as a result of learning about radical feminism

Yes, as of this election

No, opposed to the idea

No, I already had kids and was married before learning about it

No, I already had a boyfriend and don’t want to break up with him

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