in one of your answers you mention “The Four Co’s of Functional Multiplicity”
would you be willing/able to expand on that a little bit? /nf gen
I intend on making a whole post on this tbh!! So ill give you the basics- If you want, you can send in another anon with “hey this is the anon that asked for expansion on the four co’s” and Ill answer it directly with the link for the post when it goes up! Or just ask to be mentioned when it goes up- whatever works for you, works for me!
The Four Co’s of Functional Multiplicity are basically the four skills that you need to use in order to thrive as a system. They are as follows ;
Co-Consciousness
Co-Habitation
Co-Purpose
Co-Support
I’ll go through these in simple terms bc of said long post but basically
Co-Consciousness : this doesn’t necessarily mean everyone fronts at the same time, but refers to the passing of everyday memories that are important to function. Due to our trauma/types of trauma, it can be dangerous to share trauma related memories, so those are usually kept close to each alter and are worked on, in therapy, with said alter. Things we personally share are things like appointments, important dates, plans that are made, important events in our life (such as high school graduation), routine changes (such as getting a job), and self care memories (showering, eating, if we took our meds etc).
Co-Habitation : Quite literally- getting along and conflict resolution. For us that looks like openly communicating between alters, trying not to fight/torture/abuse each other, sharing time when asked or explicitly stated (such as X alter wanted to front to do XYZ activity, so they get to front for that), using polls to make big decisions, roundtable meetings on a weekly basis (which we struggle with, despite knowing how much it helps us), and learning healthy debating techniques (bc there is such a thing as healthy debate). This is one we struggle A LOT with, so I dont have the best outline for it.
Co-Purpose : Coming together to live a life worth living. This means things like a collective identity, working together to try and find a job we all like, deciding how we date, deciding where to live- stuff like that. We also struggle a lot with this one because, well,,,, we all have our own goals, and not all of us are willing to put that aside. So co-purpose also includes properly grieving that you simply dont have multiple bodies so you can’t just have “multiple purposes” if that makes sense. Like you can, hobbies and sharing time exists, but we can’t exactly split up and go to college or work in the fields we individually want. Does that make sense? Idk ill go more in depth in the actual post.
Co-Support : being there for each other EVEN IF you dont all get along. Helping others with coping skills, extending kindness to even the most ““evil”” alters. This one is so self explanatory that I wont even go into it more than this for the sake of the future post.
BUT YEAH!! Those r the four co’s of functional multiplicity!! I hope that answers it good enough until the post, godspeed.
being abused or neglected really makes it clear how many things are skills that nobody really treats as. skills. exercising autonomy is a skill. listening to your body is a skill. resting is a skill. being liked and being loved are skills. nobody tells you how to do this shit because nobody even told me I was supposed to have learnt these things when I was a kid. I kind of just have to manually figure out what makes me freak out and work from there. unfair as shit
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initially i thought girl dinner was referring to like,
what’s it called when you’re so disconnected from reality that cold water doesn’t feel like anything and you can barely taste food anymore
you deserve all the safety and love and care and joy you begged the universe for as a child