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Speaking as a relatively binary person who has several nonbinary sweeties and friends, this post seems to have generally good advice.  Many of the examples focus on singular they rather than neopronouns, although most of them will work regardless of the pronouns a person uses.  

The only section I have issues with is “tricking yourself” into using the correct pronouns for a person, partly because the examples given won’t work well for pronouns other than they and partly because that sort of mental gymnastics would be harder for me to learn (and unlearn) than teaching myself to do it right from the beginning.  However, I understand that that issue is specific to me, personally; other people are obviously going to have different experiences.

Pronoun tips from binary men and women

Every once in a while I am asked (or see someone asking) how to use pronouns other than he/him and she/her. The person asking is usually a man or a woman unfamiliar with nonbinary stuff generally, but they’ve got a particular nonbinary person in their life whom they care about and they don’t want to mess up. Maybe they keep misgendering their nonbinary friend and they feel guilty, or they want to take the burden off the nonbinary person who keeps having to correct them, something like that.

When binary people lack that confidence with pronouns, they seek the advice of nonbinary people. Not only are we likely to give advice that’s not ideal for binary people (because we’ve got skin in the game, all our friends are nonbinary so we’re used to it, etc.), but it is another facet of that dynamic of the privileged group (in this case binary people) placing their burden onto the marginalised group. Binary people should be asking advice from other binary people who’ve mastered pronouns.

So, I asked, and a bunch of binary people answered. I got advice from trans and cis binary people (men and women), and I’m collecting all the common stuff and the stuff I thought was good, all here for your perusal. If you know a binary person who’s struggling to get pronouns right, pass this along.

[This article assumes that you know a specific nonbinary person and you want to get better at using their pronouns, though the advice can be adapted. It also assumes that you’re familiar with the concepts of singular they and neopronouns, and you accept that they’re grammatically correct.]

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I found a Maleficent lunch box with dragons on it in an after-Halloween sale several/many years ago.  I happily took my lunch to work in it until it was literally falling apart.  Some of my co-workers complimented me on it over the years, and some probably snickered at it (although no one ever gave me a hard time about it).  Why give up the things that give you joy just because you’re supposed to be “too old” for them??

Don't feel ashamed of doing "CHILDISH" things

•buy toys/dolls/crayons •play with Legos •play old videogames/dress up games •weave friendship bracelets •watch cartoons •use stickers •draw pics of your favorite characters

If it makes you feel nice, do it. Don’t even worry about what other people think, because it doesn’t matter–if it brings you happiness, it’s not “ridiculous”, or “immature”.

You deserve to enjoy yourself.

If you like romance and human rights, check out this auction and fundraiser to support RAICES Texas and The Young Center!  Your donation to a good cause could help you win books, proofreading, nifty crafts, tea with an author, or any of the other nearly 200 great items and services.  They have a wide variety of romances, including LGBTQ+.  Learn more and access the full list of items at http://www.loveinpanels.com/romanceforraices!

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I'm continuing on with more monster poetry for National Poetry Month.  Sometimes you need to drag the terrible voices in your head out so you can really get to know them.  my therapist says make friends with your monsters by José Olivarez 

Squee!  I’m a Tiny Water Dragon.  It’s very appropriate both for me and for my sister who is in the same date range.  (She might have preferred Jack Ass or Safari Horse though.)

I’m a Safari Horse! What are you?

Ace-pacas!!

I drew some alpaca’s for pride month

speedpaint

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Sometimes, Cards Against Humanity games get it right.  (I still prefer Bards Dispense Profanity though.)

National Poetry Month continues!  I saw this recently, and it seemed like the perfect companion piece to Shel Silverstein's Invitation.  Here is a Monstrous Manifesto by Catherynne M. Valente.  Stand up!

If you’re truly “pro-life,” support affordable health care (including contraception) and safe food, water, and shelter for everyone.  Prioritizing a collection of cells over an actual person is not about life, it’s about control.

This is a pro-choice blog.

It’s an I wanted this baby but at my anatomy scan I found out my baby will die after it’s born blog.

It’s an I’m not financially, mentally or emotionally stable enough to bring a child into this world blog.

It’s an I can’t live with the result of my sexual assault blog.

It’s an I miscarried but the fetus will not evacuate on its own blog.

It’s an I will die if I carry this to term blog.

It’s an I don’t want to be fucking pregnant blog.

It’s a pro-choice blog.

If you see this decision as a win, educate yourself. People with uteruses WILL die. And if that’s okay with you, don’t claim you’re pro-life.

Oh, and a big, fat FUCK YOU.