I’ll Definitely Hoard Books, But I’m Not Eating My Enemies.  Do You Know Where They’ve Been?! 

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Squee!  I’m a Tiny Water Dragon.  It’s very appropriate both for me and for my sister who is in the same date range.  (She might have preferred Jack Ass or Safari Horse though.)

I’m a Safari Horse! What are you?

[swoon] Sea dragon artwork!

Another set of print packs available to go along with the Daily Paintings Book 

http://ForgePublishing.com/shop

If you’re in Wisconsin, go to https://myvote.wi.gov/ to find out if you’re registered, make sure you know where to vote, and see the ballot in advance so you can decide who/what you’re voting for before you go to the polls.  Go to https://www.bringitwisconsin.com/ for information about the required ID to vote. Whether you approve of the requirement or not, make sure you have what you need to vote!

You can also request an absentee ballot if you don’t know whether you will have time or spoons to vote on November 6.  “Under Wisconsin law, voters do not need a reason or excuse, such as being out of town on Election Day, to vote absentee.  Any voter who prefers to vote by absentee ballot may request one.” (https://elections.wi.gov/voters/absentee)  Even if Tuesdays are your day off and you want to spend them at home in your pajamas, you can get an absentee ballot and vote!

REPOST @TinySnekComics - you know what’s cool?  VOTING THIS NOVEMBER!!! if you retweet anything today, make it is!!  

I’m quite sure that the handful of people who follow me already know this, but please help spread the word!

this is your yearly reminder that animals are not toys. they are a huge commitment. even small pets like hamsters and fish can be expensive and require a lot of work. if you’re planning to get someone a pet as a gift this holiday season, please only do so if you’re 100% sure that they are willing and able to take responsibility for the well-being of a living thing, potentially for years or even decades.

National Poetry Month continues!  I saw this recently, and it seemed like the perfect companion piece to Shel Silverstein's Invitation.  Here is a Monstrous Manifesto by Catherynne M. Valente.  Stand up!

Speaking as a relatively binary person who has several nonbinary sweeties and friends, this post seems to have generally good advice.  Many of the examples focus on singular they rather than neopronouns, although most of them will work regardless of the pronouns a person uses.  

The only section I have issues with is “tricking yourself” into using the correct pronouns for a person, partly because the examples given won’t work well for pronouns other than they and partly because that sort of mental gymnastics would be harder for me to learn (and unlearn) than teaching myself to do it right from the beginning.  However, I understand that that issue is specific to me, personally; other people are obviously going to have different experiences.

Pronoun tips from binary men and women

Every once in a while I am asked (or see someone asking) how to use pronouns other than he/him and she/her. The person asking is usually a man or a woman unfamiliar with nonbinary stuff generally, but they’ve got a particular nonbinary person in their life whom they care about and they don’t want to mess up. Maybe they keep misgendering their nonbinary friend and they feel guilty, or they want to take the burden off the nonbinary person who keeps having to correct them, something like that.

When binary people lack that confidence with pronouns, they seek the advice of nonbinary people. Not only are we likely to give advice that’s not ideal for binary people (because we’ve got skin in the game, all our friends are nonbinary so we’re used to it, etc.), but it is another facet of that dynamic of the privileged group (in this case binary people) placing their burden onto the marginalised group. Binary people should be asking advice from other binary people who’ve mastered pronouns.

So, I asked, and a bunch of binary people answered. I got advice from trans and cis binary people (men and women), and I’m collecting all the common stuff and the stuff I thought was good, all here for your perusal. If you know a binary person who’s struggling to get pronouns right, pass this along.

[This article assumes that you know a specific nonbinary person and you want to get better at using their pronouns, though the advice can be adapted. It also assumes that you’re familiar with the concepts of singular they and neopronouns, and you accept that they’re grammatically correct.]

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As I librarian, I love the idea of the queer community being more like a library than an exclusive club.  Huge thanks to FYA for choosing libraries as examples of open, welcoming, inclusive places!

Any aspec feeling down because of the posts telling not to go to pride, I've seen plenty of posts banning enbies, trans people, pans, bis and in one particularly baffling case, lesbians from attending. With literally the only group escaping these posts being cis gay men, I think it's safe to say they're rubbish. Gatekeepers can have their own super exclusive pride in some dark cave with rest of the council of evildoers.

I told my friend today that I think people see the queer community as this exclusive club and you must dress and appear “gay enough” to be allowed in, when I think the queer community should be more akin to a library that can host events. Because the exclusion of any dampers the pride I feel down until I don’t want pride symbols and colors everywhere because I don’t want to think about the heartbreak we do to each other 24/7.

Quick reminder that December 15 is less than a week away.  If you are planning to sign up for health insurance through the ACA, do it soon!

Trump Wants Millennials to Forget About the ACA's Deadline

Andrew Cray didn't have to worry about going bankrupt when he waged a losing battle against cancer. His widow now has an urgent message.

This is great advice.  Does anyone know if it works for MD-shopping as well?

How do you (“how does one”) shop for a therapist?

Can you call up a therapist and be like “hi, I’m therapist shopping”? Can you schedule an appointment with a therapist and then be like “actually I have some questions and I want to spend part of this appointment talking about your practice and whether or not it is garbage?”? Are you expected to phone interview/screen your therapists if you are shopping around for a therapist?

If you’re seeing one therapist are you supposed to/not supposed to tell them if you start seeing another therapist? Is it possible to cheat on your therapist?