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Model: Selkeys

Rigger: Akai Ryuu

Photographer: Akai Ryuu

shot in Warsaw, 2016

Learning time with @kinbakunokaiji and @fred-rx earlier this evening 👍✨

My wife was a performer on a trans-site for a brief while. We started dating afterward, and have been hitched for 6 years this December. Out of a total of 12 years together, not once have I asked, nor have I wanted her to fuck me, and I’m pan-sexual. ;D

If some like it, great. Others don’t, fine. I think it’s tantamount to harassment to force someone into a role they’re uncomfortable with, either topping or bottoming.

Final word, you do you Jessica. Keep playing by your rules. Love the content BTW. 😊

I've noticed what you talking about with how trans girls are required to top translated into normal sex. I (a trans woman) can meet a guy tell him I'm bottom only, and then mid sex hes like "so are you going to fuck me or what", and I've actually had someone refer to porn as why i should fuck him despite me being a bottom. he told me every trans girl likes to fuck guys. like what the fuck? its dumb and i wish you the best, bottom girl solidarity

That is exactly why when I started porn I was like “hey, if the arguement is that I’m in porn because I’m a girl, I’m not going to touch my penis. If I’m a girl that’s not necesary. If I can’t be in this porno without fucking some dude in the ass then you’re not booking me because I’m a girl you’re booking me because I’m a shemale. And my transition, my femininity, my identity isn’t up for sale like that. I’ll get fucked like a slut like a girl, but I won’t be a shemale.” and that’s what got me in tons and tons of trouble. That’s why after getting on the cover of the only trans magazine for the swimsuit edition the year after Aubrey Kate, Evil Angel wouldn’t film me, Trans500 wouldn’t film me, Trans Angels wouldn’t film me. These guys take it as a personal attack that I won’t use my cock. They even write in to websites and say things like “Don’t you ever hire her again!”They don’t care that most trans girls are human, feminine, and submissive. They don’t care that producing this content for them to jerk off over results in girls like you going out and dating and having guys tell you to your face what I heard on my first porno set “well you’re a tranny sweet heart so just do the tranny thing”We’re not allowed to be seen like girls are seen. They put us in a box and make us do these dominant aggressive shemale things so they can jerk off. They say “that’s what sells!” when I have 28,000 followers on tumblr, 53,000 followers on twitter, 63,000 followers on instagram. I have 69 subscribers to my onlyfans and there isn’t even a single video of me touching my penis ever. If it doesn’t sell then how did a girl with almost no mainstream exposure what so ever sell 69 subscribtions to guys who will never see her touch her penis? They are creating a culture where we don’t get to be as feminine as our genetic female counterparts and we all wonder why victoria’s secret won’t let us walk the run way. Only final note on this. All the producers who insist this is what sells and it’s what we have to do? They don’t date trans girls. Not a single one of them. They all date genetic girls. They turn us into a sexually dominant fetish and use us and go back to their cunt. They’re around trans girls all day, work with trans girls, insist this is how we have to be, and then go home to their genetic women.

No limit

1.Kissed a girl?

2.Kissed a boy?

3.Had sex in public?

4.What’s your religion?

5.What does your URL mean?

6.Reason you joined tumblr?

7.Do you have any nicknames?

8.Do you like bubble bath?

9.Kissed in the rain?

10.Dyed your hair?

11.Soup or salad?

12.Vegetable or meat?

13.Go out drinking?

14.Smoke cigarettes?

15.Smoke weed?

16.Do any hard drugs?

17.Have you had sex today?

18.Have you ever fallen asleep in someones arms?

19.The relationship between you and the person you last texted?

20.Has anyone ever told you you have pretty eyes?

21.Skipped doing homework to play a video game?

22.Tried to commit suicide?

23.The last time you felt broken?

24.Had to lie to EVERYONE about how you felt?

25.Do you have a Boyfriend/Girlfriend?

26.Do you have Long hair OR short hair?

27.First thing you notice to a guy/girl?

28.Do you sing in the shower?

29.Do you dance in the car?

30.Where were you yesterday?

31.Ever used a bow and arrow?

32.Last time you got a portrait taken by a photographer?

33.Do you think musicals are cheesy?

34.Is Christmas stressful?

35.Favorite type of fruit pie?

36.Occupations you wanted to be when you were a kid?

37.Do you believe in ghosts?

38.Ever have a Deja-vu feeling?

39.Take a vitamin daily?

40.Wear slippers?

41.Wear a bath robe?

42.What do you wear to bed?

43.Do you want to get married?

44.Can you curl your tongue?

Relationship preference:

45.How many relationships have you had?

46.How can I win your heart?

47.what makes a great relationship?

48.Shy OR open?

50.Religious OR non-religious?

51.Caring OR non-restricting of you?

52.Straight edge OR non-straight edge?

53.Piercings OR no piercings?

54.Tattoos OR no tattoos?

55.Quiet stay-at-home type OR party type?

Please?

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BDSM Links And Resources

I thought I would update the list of BDSM links and resources I posted a while ago, as some links were no longer working and I had several new ones to add, including a list of books. These should be particularly helpful to those who are new to BDSM and looking to explore D/s relationships, as the best way to go about that is to first read everything you can and then read even more! Not only will this allow you to educate yourself, help keep you safe and avoid any potential mistakes or regrets, but also the more you understand something, the less intimidating it will seem.

If you have anything to add, please don’t hesitate to let me know and I will update this list, in particular if there any books that a submissive might find helpful or informative, as most of the books I have read or included are intended for Dominants.

Note: For the sake of consistency and readability, I have used capitals throughout this document and have not used lower case when referring to submissives or slaves.

Websites:

Babygirls ‘n’ Daddy Doms: Website dedicated to littles, babygirls and Daddy Doms, with a lot of useful information on the subject.

Collarme: A free BDSM dating website and community, that is probably the most popular and a better option than the commercial alternatives.

DS Arts: Academy of DS Arts, fairly self explanatory.

Evil Monk: Ambrosio’s BDSM Website, featuring many useful articles.

Fetlife: An online BDSM community that I would highly recommend and which is perhaps best described as Facebook for the kinky, allowing users to create a profile, publish photos or writing and join interest groups where you can ask questions.

Kink Academy: An online resource with many educational and instructional videos on various aspects of BDSM, although users must pay a small fee to access all of the content.

Submissive Guide: As the name suggests, this is an online resource for submissives.

The Iron Gate: A general BDSM online resource, with many aticles, essays and even stories on the subject.

Dating and Relationships:

10 Principles For Healthy 24/7 D/s And M/s (Source: sexgeek.wordpress.com)

Difference of Dynamics in BDSM (Source: the-little-kitten.tumblr.com)

Finding Your Dominant (Source: asubmissivesjourney.com)

How To Find A Partner (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 3 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

So You Want Your Boyfriend To Dominate You (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate Her (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

The Unfortunate But Common Misconceptions About DD/lg Relationships (Source: a-lolitas-life.tumblr.com)

Play:

Consent Is Mandatory And Non-Negotiable (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)

Food Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Rules and Tasks for Building Confidence (Source: themostdangerousplaything.tumblr.com)

Tools of Consent in BDSM (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Training in D/s - Why? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Training in D/s - How? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Training in D/s - Thoughts And Concerns (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Wax Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)

Safety:

Basics Of Safe, Sane And Consensual Power Exchange (Source: Molly Devon / the-iron-gate.com)

Common Sense (Source: Sean R. Powell / the-iron-gate.com)

Emotional Safety (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Offline/Online BDSM Safety Rules (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Ouch Is Not A Safe Word: Safe Words, Limits, and Scene Protocol (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Rules For Meeting Strangers (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)

Safewords and Safesigns 101 (Source: kinkology.tumblr.com)

S.S.C. VS R.A.C.K. (Source: Justin Medlin / the-iron-gate.com)

Checklists, Communication and Negotiation:

BDSM Play Partner Check List (Source: Sovereign House / the-iron-gate.com)

BDSM Scene Negotiations (Source: daddyvinnie.tumblr.com)

Can I Get That In Writing: Basics of Negotiations (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Communication (Source: submissivesupportgroup.tumblr.com)

If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Negotiation Forms (Source: Jay Wiseman, SM 101: A Realistic Introduction / greenerypress.com)

What Are Negotiations Good For? (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Sub Drop and Aftercare:

Aftercare for submissives (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Aftercare for Dominants (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Aftercare for Switches (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Emergency Self-Administered Aftercare (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Sub Drop (Source: David Williams / subshelpingsubs.tripod.com)

Sub Drop and Aftercare (Source: desires-of-a-domimant-man.tumblr.com)

Dominance and Dominants:

A Dominant is NOT… (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Advice to a Novice Dom (Source: Washington Sexuality University / the-iron-gate.com)

Advice to a Novice Dominant (Source: cherhatton.tumblr.com)

An Open Letter To A Novice Dom (Source: evilmonk.org)

Qualities of A Successful Dominant (Source: Polly Peachum / the-iron-gate.com)

Daddy Doms: They’re Not What You Think (Source: edenfantasys.com)

Domination for Nice Guys (Source: Franklin Veaux / the-iron-gate.com)

How To Spot A Non Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Learning To Be A Dom (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

The Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

What Is A Daddy Dom? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)

What Makes A Good Dominant (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)

What Should A Dominant Be (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Submission and Submissives:

10 Considerations For Inexperienced Subs (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)

A Submissive Bill of Rights (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

A Submissive’s Creed (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

A Submissive’s Ethics (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Introduction To Submission (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)

Learning to Trust Your Instincts (Source: bewildbetruebekinkybeyou.tumblr.com)

Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Some Rules For The Submissive (Source: daddylookingforhisbaby.tumblr.com)

Submissive Owner’s Manual (Source: youmadememe.tumblr.com)

Ten Tips For The Novice, Heterosexual submissive Woman (Source: Jay Wiseman / the-iron-gate.com)

Warning Signs for Submissives (Source: RC Bauer / the-iron-gate.com)

What Is A Babygirl? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)

Books:

BDSM: The Naked Truth by Dr Charley Ferrer

Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

Devil in the Details I: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - The Master, The Slave, The Power by LT Morrison

Devil in the Details II: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Mastery Refine: The Issues, The Skills by LT Morrison

Devil in the Details III: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Sustainable Structure and Traning by LT Morrison

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon Jacobs

Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves and Their Relationships by Dan and Dawn Williams

Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert Rubel

Master/slave Relations: Communications 401 by Robert Rubel

Master/slave Relations: Solutions 402, Living in Harmony by Robert Rubel

Protocols: A Variety of Views by Robert Rubel

Real Service by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Phillp Miller and Molly Devon

SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

The Control Book by Peter Masters

The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren

The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino

This Curious Human Phenomenon: An Exploration of Some Uncommonly Explored Aspects of BDSM by Peter Masters

Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook by Christina Parker