One more time.
There is no way for a human being to be born innately, inherently, ontologically, “a bad person”. There is no mental illness that makes a person innately, inherently, ontologically “bad”. There is no “abuser gene”. There is no “abuser disorder”. Whether or not someone is abusive, manipulative, and cruel, is based entirely on the behaviors they choose to engage in. How they choose to see people and treat people. What thoughts they choose to entertain.
If you immediately “morally diagnose” someone based on their mental illness, that they did not choose to have, you are choosing to engage in a cruel behavior. I don’t care if you believe you’re “empathetic”, you do not have a “good person” gene, or some sort of “good person” condition. Whether someone has high empathy or no empathy, all people are individually responsible for their own behaviors. There is nothing innate about you that absolves you from being responsible for abusive behavior.
Stop demonizing personality disorders, and start actually holding abusers accountable for their choices. End of argument.
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Being angry is okay. Screaming at people and breaking stuff isn't. Being jealous is okay. Sabotaging relationships isn't. Being anxious and insecure is okay. Seeking validation by guilt tripping and manipulating people isn't. Being sad is okay. Intentionally dragging other people down with you isn't. What I'm trying to say is that while all of your emotions are valid, you still have a responsibility to express them in a healthy way.
""You cannot piss in a cup or pull a sword from a stone or anything else in order to tell if you're trans or not. You are if you want to be. You're not if you don't."
This is what I say. No one listens.
"Look. I define transgendered literally; it's a way of crossing. Crossing into a different gender. Not the opposite, there are so many, just a different one. Or crossing out of the gender that theoretically goes, in that there heterosexual matrix we keep talking about, with your biological sex.
"Being a transsexual is a different animal. That's a matter of medical things or the intention of medical things, changing your sex you know? The sex parts: genitals, reproductive organs, hormones, secondary sexual characteristics. Or living full-time as a person of a certain culturally aligned sex and gender, whether you do medical things or not, because some people can't and it isn't fair to punish that. So them, too. But transgendered is wide open. And butch is a nonnormative gender yes? We can agree on that, anyway? So if you want to claim transgendered, great as far as I'm concerned."
People sign at me. They roll their eyes, They shake their heads. They want me to make ruling, they want me to tell them if they can call themselves transgendered, or alternative if they can still call themselves butch. As though I somehow have the power to confer or deny whatever label they want, or as though I can be relied upon to make an impartial decision int he case of an argument, whether it is internal or among individuals."
"Border Wars” Butch is a Noun essays by S. Bear Bergman (2006)
reading abt pauli murray..... forget he should've been at the club. he should've been on t
I was today years old when I learned that when you type “otp: true” in AO3 search results it filters out fics with additional ships, leaving only the fics where your otp is the main ship
Beautiful people of a beautiful land
im going to complain for a sec about something arbitrary but as expected ppl rbing the news abt greece legalising gay marriage and adoption are being so unfunny abt it like "haha werent they always gay since ancient times" or "nice to see greece embracing tradition" straight up saw multiple people make references to aphrodite or the greek gods like can u shut up 😭 its not even funny you dont know anything abt this country
Hey everyone, this is Bisan from Gaza. I'm still alive but Hind is not. Do you remember Hind Rajab? This seven (7) years old child who was missed 12 days ago. Hind was in a car with five (5) family members and they were all killed - except Hind - by an Israeli bomb, and then she called the Ambulance, she asked them to rescue her. Two Ambulance men from the Red Crescent tried to do this but they were also missed. Now; today they were found killed. The body of Hind found killed, found murdered. It's just a new massacre added to the list of endlessly massacres committed by Israel against my people; Palestinians in Gaza right now.
No one holds Israel accountable until now. No one is doing anything. Hind was killed. Who is the next? I don't know, it might be any one of us, but I mean, it's a new, it's a new massacre - she is murdered. You all heard her story, you all heard her voice asking for help saying (Bisan speaks in Arabic first then translates to English the following) "take me with you, take me from here". She was between dead bodies for days, alone and no one could rescue her. We knew where she was, we knew that she was okay, we knew that she could contact the Red Crescent but no one rescued her.
-- Bisan on Instagram, 02.10.2024
There really is nothing left to say.