Having A Traumatic Childhood Means You Cannot Talk Even Objectively About Your Basic Foundational Experiences

Having a traumatic childhood means you cannot talk even objectively about your basic foundational experiences without it being "venting", even if you're not actually venting. You just straight up have a huge chunk of your life you can't talk about, full stop, without it being trauma dumping.

And it not being socially acceptable to talk about your own childhood is super alienating. Sometimes people want to know why, and any answer you can give them is going to be off putting.

It's to the point I get irritated when something I said is framed as venting when I'm literally just talking about my life experiences, doing my best to keep emotion out of it.

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2 months ago
James Harrison, blood donor whose rare plasma saved millions of babies, dead at 88 | CNN
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James Harrison, a prolific Australian blood donor famed for having saved the lives of more than two million babies, has died at age 88.

It's worth noting that there are some extraordinary people in the world who have been quietly doing the work for decades, and they should be celebrated with all the fervor that we denounce the villains. I first read about Harrison twenty-odd years ago, when he'd already been doing this for about fifty years, and this is one of those guys whose life can, indeed, be summed up by his headline.

James Harrison saved millions of lives. Millions. Not with anything flashy or dramatic, not with profound speeches or brilliant strategy or any of the things we insist are the ways to impact the world. He simply kept himself as healthy as possible so that every few weeks he could go and sit quietly in a room and give away a fundamental part of himself — quite literally his lifeblood — to people he'd never meet, for no pay and no expectation of acknowledgement. (He was, it should be said, acknowledged quite a lot per this article, but that's beside the point.)

When we talk about the kind of people we want to elevate and celebrate in our societies, I often think of people like James Harrison. I hope we get more of him; not just for his blood, but for his heart.

3 weeks ago
Putting Things By...
Putting Things By...
Putting Things By...
Putting Things By...
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2 months ago

mwah is a very important word

2 months ago

why am i so haunted

Why Am I So Haunted

sorry hold on i couldnt find the gif I wanted but I found this one instead, why is he so cunty?

2 months ago
Tys Ladies

tys ladies

3 years ago

A technique for planting on hills. I'm sure there are many terms and traditions for this. If you're into permacture, you might recognize it as a sort of mini-swale. Basically, it serves as a way to help plants get established on hillsides, when you don't or can't terrace them.

A Technique For Planting On Hills. I'm Sure There Are Many Terms And Traditions For This. If You're Into

The idea is that you plant in a little pocket, such that the plant is a little more sheltered & such that whatever rain falls on or up-hill of the plant is captured so that it sinks in rather than contributing to runoff.

In this particular case, one of my clients has a bald patch on a hill side that they don't want to invest any money in, because they don't think anything can grow there. Thus, I have been slowly populating it with divisions and transplants from other parts of their yard, with permission, and am slowly changing their mind.

The soil is not in particularly great shape, because it's a very steep hill, and a dog has been using it for a pathway. So it's steep, bare of any mulch or plant life, compacted, and the soil is poor in organic matter. A lovely challenge, no?

Today I was deadheading & thinning their rose campion, a tough little plant that is drought tolerant and can grow in very poor soil. Here's the first one I planted (and you can see why I included the diagram, it is a bit hard to tell what's going on:

A Technique For Planting On Hills. I'm Sure There Are Many Terms And Traditions For This. If You're Into
A Technique For Planting On Hills. I'm Sure There Are Many Terms And Traditions For This. If You're Into

On the left is an overhead view, right is a side-on view. Now, see what happens when you add water:

A Technique For Planting On Hills. I'm Sure There Are Many Terms And Traditions For This. If You're Into
A Technique For Planting On Hills. I'm Sure There Are Many Terms And Traditions For This. If You're Into

It pools at the base of the plant, and then slowly soaks in. Ideally, I'd have a nutritive mulch to add on top, but alas. These are tough little guys, and now when the rains come, they'll actually get watered instead of all that water washing down hill.

6 months ago

god I love when there are full-blown festivals for tomatoes or garlic or salmon. truly what we should all be getting together to celebrate

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Vedin (vay-den)

Ho hum hai, down with empires and up with softness.They/them polyam white queer

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