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sorry this isn’t in format, but i was wondering if you could point me in the right direction.

i’m questioning if i have ocd, but i can’t find any trustworthy resources, and i don’t want to harm anyone or contribute to self-diagnosis stereotypes in case i don’t have ocd

i can relate to a lot of the stuff in this and other blogs, but i don’t want it to end up that i was “faking it”

please don’t feel pressured to answer, have a nice day/night either way!

don’t worry about it! I’ve been thinking for a while about compiling a list of OCD resources, and this gives me an excuse. first up, I just want to say thank you for taking the time to do your research, and I really hope you’re able to find the resources and help that you need!

my view is that it’s important to look at a combination of offical resources and personal experiences when you’re first investigating a disorder. just looking at one or the other doesn’t really give a full image of what its like to be a person with OCD. so I hope all of this information is helpful!

where to start:

OCD UK

John Green talking about living with OCD (one is an article, and one is a video)

DSM criteria for OCD

ICD criteria for OCD

what it’s like to live with OCD

if you relate to the above:

talk to a mental health professional if possible

this is what treatment should look like

self care with OCD

if anyone has any other resources, please let me know! I’m going to link this at the top of my blog for future reference.

good luck, anon!

"Why do you like hamsters if you have ASPD?"

What else am I supposed to like? Murder? Blood? Guns? Robbing elderly women?

I really hate hearing this comment because the people who say bullshit like that always seem to think that someone liking casual or sweet things automatically disproves that they have an "evil" PD like ASPD or NPD.

Can we all please agree that hobbies and likes/dislikes have nothing to do with a personality disorder? I love my hamster, this tiny little creature, to the point that I am obsessively watching her and overanalyse her behaviour to figure out if she likes me or not. I also had a period in which I tried to learn knitting, I love to play Final Fantasy XIV and take my time to pet any lalafell player I come across because those tiny characters are just too cute.

I know someone with NPD who obsessively collects those funky pride flags and microlabels because that makes them happy. My boyfriend has NPD and he loves warrior cats.

Not everyone who has ASPD or NPD loves gore, horror, blood, shooter games or have any other "edgy" interest (obviously people with ASPD and NPD who love those kind of things are lovely too <3). People are versatile. Stop assuming that everyone with ASPD or NPD just likes edgy things because teenagers think that this is the thing which makes them a psychopath.

Wanderer above the Sea of Fog, Caspar David Friedrich, 1818

akiko higashimura’s princess jellyfish || 東村アキコの『海月姫』

Can you talk about the difference between autistic and non-autistic “insistence on sameness”?

I wear slight variations of the same clothes every day, I eat the same things over and over, I never want to watch new movies or tv shows or read new books, as a child my parents Could Not get me to try new foods outside of my specific preferred foods… my mum says I was “just never open to new things”.

But I can handle change/the new, even if I don’t like it. If I had to wear different clothes tomorrow I wouldn’t like it but I could function. New foods are harder than that but as long as they’re not lumpy/slimy I can try them now…

What do you think?

Each autistic experience of "sameness" is different because it highly depends on the why. Some routines or sameness are because of sensory issues, others may be due to anxieties or mental safety.

NT sameness may be because it's easier, comfortable or just enjoyable. Autistics can also experience this.

Major key difference is that autistics can experience great distress if things are changed without notice or not enough time given.

Examples:

Eating the same food: autistic may do so because it's the only foods that are safe for their sensory needs. A NT just likes that food.

Travelling the same route home: autistic may do this because it's a guaranteed way home with no surprises. They will struggle with detours. A NT just knows it takes them home. Why change?

Wearing the same clothing: an autistic may do this because of sensory issues or difficulties understanding fashionable trends. These clothes help them survive day to day. An NT may do it because "is their fashion".

And depending on your level of sensitivity in that area, you may be able to handle changes more easily than an autistic who struggles.

I have low oral/taste sensitivity. So I samefood, but will have no to low distress if I had to eat something slightly different (as long as it's on my safe food list).

But, I have high sound sensitivity, so going to a new shop and finding out I don't have my noise cancelling headphones may put me into shutdown.

Another autistic may struggle with the opposites to me.

Neurotypical: You should help me put more it's the nice thing to do.

Autistic: Okay, I'll do whatever you need me to do. Just tell me what to do.

Neurotypical: I shouldn't have to tell you what to do, just help.

Autistic: How can I help????

Neurotypical: You're so inconsiderate for not helping even when I don't ask directly for help.

This is a personal experience of mine and I can't describe how frustrating it feels!

I will literally do what you tell me to if you just say it!

I can't understand when you might want my help, so all you have to do is ASK DIRECTLY!

Don't do shit like "oh I wish someone could help me." Because I won't know if that'd a joke or not!

Just say, "Hey can you help me clean this?" Or "Hey do you kind getting the mail for me?"

It's not that hard.

I'm not inconsiderate for not helping you when you didn't ask.

chiho saitou’s revolutionary girl utena || さいとうちほの『少女革命ウテナ』

Many entities located in a newly discovered area of the Far Plane. Entities form a body of water 2 around them that acts as both a vehicle and shield, allowing them to climb the walls of their environment. When they get to the ceiling, they fall back into the water 2 and start the cycle again.